Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
I'm struggling today, ladies. Actually, I was fine all day until this past hour. I even drove home thinking how much better I feel about this round of clomid than the previous three. And, then it hit me like a ton of bricks. Complete despair. Today's issue...I feel so guilty because it is my body that is failing us. I feel like a failure as a wife and as a woman. When I miscarried several months ago, I told my husband that he became very upset. He is so incredible and takes such good care of me but he can't understand the feelings of guilt, shame, anger. How do I combat the guilt?
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
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I have my maxed amount of epidural shots of my cervical DDD....(and no one cares about my lumbar DDD)..... I've done physical therapy, muscle relaxers, Amitriptyline, Nortryptiline, desipramine.....narcotics... So I decided to go to a spine specialist and they have me on Gabapentin. Its been two weeks and it did nothing for my lumbar ever... but it did seem to help my cervical and arm/hand pain...
It is easy to say that it is not your fault that your body isn't cooperative. It is less easy to believe it. I try to look at it like any other medical problem; is it your fault if you were born diabetic? Nope, your body just isn't as good at producing insulin. In IF, your body just isn't as good at producing off spring.
In my case we are dealing with male and female factors. I feel let down by my body sometimes, but if I blamed myself, I'd have to blame my husband too, and that's not fair.
The more I talk about it, the better I feel. The less alone I feel. Guilt, anger and shame are all a part of IF as are so many other unpleasant feelings. Accepting that those feelings are a part of it and remembering that how you feel today is not permanent (especially on this roller coaster). It took a few months, but my husband learned what I needed and how not to take my moods personally. I learned how to help him too.
Also, you mentioned you are on Clomid, I know that alone made me crazy for a few days. Sometimes you just have to wait for that to pass.
I hope you feel better soon. HUGS
I don't get it, really I don't...why us woman who are so ready to nuture and care for a baby can't get one, yet other's who are druggies, and/or just young and not prepared or even capable of caring for themselves get babies.
I'm sorry your down, I know it's hard, but as much as I don't take my own advice...I need to...and that is WE NEED TO BELEIVE AND TRUST IN GOD THAT IT WILL HAPPEN FOR US, THAT IT IS IN OUR PLAN!
Keep the Faith girly!
I received a package in the mail from Snapfish, I hadn't ordered any pics, so I was not sure what it was. When I opened it, it was a few photos of my hubby and I with our Godson, from his Christening, my friend sent them. I LOST it! I kept thinking, here is the only photo of us that we'll ever have with a baby, and it's not even ours!
Ugh, I'm tearing up right now just thinking about it.
Hope everyone has a better day today.