I'm so sorry for your loss. =( My hubby isn't quite distant but when I first found out & realized pregnancy wouldn't be what it is for everyone else it was almost as if he would avoid the talks. Now more than 5 years of trying he's much more understanding and takes up for me in those "awkward" situations that ignorant people put us in. I don't know if a light just came on for him after some time or if he realized he's in this for the long haul and it's "our" problem and "our" loss of something we may never have. Sorry I not much help but sending love your way!

Men are just not that attuned to our emotions, period. But that doesn't mean they don't have some serious stuff going on under the surface, too. Sorry your husband seems to hasty for you. He may just not want to accept defeat! : ) Best of luck! Think positive, think of having a baby and not losing one. Not to say this incident won't be a part of your life forever but I think those souls come back. My mom miscarried my twin and my younger brother swears he was the twin.

In my opinion, men and women have very different ways of dealing with crisis. Men tend to be results oriented, while women tend to focus on the emotional aspect of things. My husband and I have been trying for almost two years, and when I really struggle with my emotions, he hauls off and suggests we adopt, which is something I'm not willing to consider at this point. Sometimes I do feel like he doesn't understand me at all (he has two children from a previous marriage and I have never been pregnant). At the end of the day however, he tells me we will get through this together no matter what. I think you should tell your husband your fears regarding trying again. Ask him what his feelings are about the miscarriage and trying again. Here is a website I found that may be helpful when talking to your husband. http://www.suite101.com/content/communication-amongst-the-sexes-a42204

Men and women are just so incredibly different in how they process both infertility and miscarriage. Women have a much more outwardly emotional reaction. But men ARE reacting emotionally, just not in the same way. Men want to "fix things." They want everything to be better as soon as possible. Your husband VERY obviously wants to have a child. This is a beautiful thing. But you should have a talk about when YOU will be ready.

My husband and I just had our third miscarriage. We have been trying to have a family since the beginning of 2008 - over three years. I don't ovulate without injections and if we are not successful with one more round of artificial insemination, our reproductive endocrinologist is moving us on to in-vitro fertilization. It has been a long and hard road for us.

When I am dealing with the immediate sorrow of finding out we have lost another baby to miscarriage, my husband's reaction is to immediately look up adoption agencies. This has happened EVERY time. I came to realize that this is HIS way of dealing with the pain. He HAS to try to DO something. I came to realize that this is actually quite beautiful that he wants us to be parents so much.

Miscarriages are just SO hard. I never thought I could handle another after our first. Somehow, I have handled two more. I really believe that our three little angel babies would want me to move forward and keep living happily. So, with some effort, I do exactly that. I live because I know they would want me to live. And I got through. Your little angel wants the same for you. When the time is right, you will know when you are ready to try again.

Your husband wants a child with you. No matter what, this too is a beautiful blessing. You WILL get through this. Walking through grief is a process but if you keep walking, you WILL make it. And you will be stronger because of it. You will never forget your angel baby. It will always be your first. I am so very sorry for your loss. I am sending a HUGE hug to you with this comment.