oh i so understand how you feel. i've los 3 and i think abortions are horrible. but i really would like to ask you a question. is it worth it for her to keep the baby, g-d forbid die and leave 7 kids without their mother?
i know you are hurting and miss your child very much. and i know how much you want a child. and i am too against abortions, but not if its to save someone's life.try to see her point. she needs to do this and you need to understand her. try to take it easy. good luck to the both of you.

I can understand your hurt and pain. However it sounds like your sister became pregnant on accident due to medication that effected her birth control which is something that she didn't plan. Having the baby could risk her life and that is the only time that I am not completly against abortion. Sorry to hear that you are going through this right now.

I am very sorry for your pain and your lost. I also lost a baby and I know how painful it can be. I dont think it would right for you sister to keep the baby if its going to put her at risk of losing her live and the children will have to grow up w/out their mother. I know it seems like she has it all because she has 7 kids, but you also said she is struggling to pay her bills and rising 7 kids -that cannot be fun! I know having an abortion sounds cruel, especially when dealing w/infertility. I used to work in foster care and its no place for a child to be. I think your sister should make her own decisions. In the end she is the one who will have to live with those decisions.

Good luck to you both!

dana H is so right she gonna have to live with her decision sometimes we have little or no effect on people. I sorry for your loss and pain. but with it being life or death for your sister. What can we say she needs to be alive for the other 7 children. just pray for her hon that's all you can do.

I agree with the rest of the ladies, but I am so sorry you have to witness this. Loosing your baby must have been so hard for you. Take care!

I'm sorry for your pain but I too have to agree with the other ladies on the board - she didn't intentionally get pregnant, I don't think she should risk her life. Sorry

I am a firm believer that abortion is cruel except whenit does come to the risk of your sisters life. How do you explain to the other 7 kids that she is gone from their life. It is sad that it will have to happen but the risk of your sisters life isn't worth it right now. I know my sister had one just because she didn't want to have the baby and she didn't use prtection so that I have big issues with, this she didn't mean for it tohappen but she does need to look at getting her tubes done so this can't happen again

Sorry for the spelling ladies, I hate migraines!! Makes me feel so stupid

I too, agree with the other ladies.

When my nephew's wife became PG with her second child, I was SO envious! However, if her life would have been threatened by the PG, I would have supported the decision to abort. I do not believe in abortions, except for the most extreme cases.

Support your sister's decision, and pray for her. If she delivered the baby, but passed on, wouldn't that leave the other 7 at the hands of foster care? Seems mighty unfair to me. At least this way, those children still have a mother, and you still have your sister. Think about what's best for her health/life, and the well-being of her children.

In this case, you need to put your hurt aside, and help your sister deal with her's.

Good luck to you both. I will be praying for you all.

I am so sorry hon . I wish there is something i could say but if its for medical reasons and her children can all lose her then what can you really do . Its a lose lose situation both ways. I will pray for both of you .

I guess what makes this so hard for me to deal with is the fact that in 1999 she was diaogniosed with cervical cancer. The doctor told her that she would never have any more children. She had 2 boys by a previous marriage, then the girl with my current brother-n-law. She was so sad, cried so much, she got PG with twins! The girls were born 2/25/00 and are beautiful! She got PG again when the twins were 5 months old! She did'nt want the baby, never rubbed her tummy, nothing! I did. I kinda became the one PG, as I always talked to the baby, rubbed her tummy, always took her out to eat, I wanted my niece so bad! She had a girl, "Bethany" she was born on my birthday!! I was a real mother hen! My sister has never bonded to this child. My mom and I spoil her rotten, because we see the difference she makes in the kid's. Bethany was born with breathing problems had to be on oxygen for the 1st year, and has severe athasma. But what makes it worse! She gott PG AGAIN!!! This time she was thrilled! Mom and I decided to leave her be , so she would bond with "MacKensi" and she did! Actually she is nuts over her! My issue with this is that my sister is married to a wonderful man, he has his own company , but is struggling at the present time. She is toteing all the weight , so to speak. My sister has a nice home, good husband, healthy children, everything a person could want in life, and more. This is just her time and season. I asked her if she would change her mind, if say her fincincial situation was good, she said she didn't know, this ruiened her getting bypass surgery, yeah, that's how she found out, she went in for her clearance to get the surgery, and the urine test was positive! I know she has good insurance with the hospital she works at, but if she can pay the $2,500 dedictible for surgery, then she can have the baby! I don't want to lose my only sister, but I am afirm believer that if ya play ya pay! She has been told to get her tubes tied, WHY, WHY GOD, OH, WHY GOD????? I am willing to cut back on school, and adopt the baby, I may never be able to have another child myself. I will hate her if she aborts this baby and does not get her tubes tied! I think her having 7 children, she would know better! She cannot allow this to be a method for birth control.