Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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friends who have no idea..

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i got this phone call from my friend, she asked me how i was. so i was honest i told her i was frustrated with the baby making process. that i wanted to start a family and have a baby with my husband. she then proceeded to tell me that she understood, that there are things in life you dont have control over but you have to "just " except them... huh. she then gave me an example.. (this is great) "well it is like my boobs, i would like to have big boobs but i dont, my life still goes on" end quote. i was so shocked she askded me if she lost me (signal) i was laughing and said no..but thanks for relating having a child to have a "c" cup. WOW what is the world coming to it seems like noone can even support others. i want to start a family and have a baby with the man i love...where is the crime in that?
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WOW! That was really a dumb thing to say! It's so unreal what people come out with.
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She doesn't get it! :)
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LOL! That is one of the better remarks I have heard. That's such an idiotic remark, you just gotta laugh!
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OMG! That is one of the worst comments I have heard so far. I think the other girls are right, just try to laugh it off.
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Some ppl are just so clueless at times. If its not happening to them they just dont understand. They dont realize that saying the stupid things they do really hurt us that cannot have children. Its very frustrating i know .
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Yeah my friend who has a 10 year old and a 14 year old believes that if it was meant to be then it would happen..way to support MY ISSUE!!! Just because you had no problems getting a family doesnt mean im not meant to have one..keep "pluggin" at it girl something will hep some where, you just have to find what works for you.
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I wouldn't have even known what to say to that remark!!!! It can be so hard to relate to friends who do not understand what infertility feels like. I have a girlfriend who, every time she calls, says: "So, you preggers yet?" I'm just about to the point of not answering her calls anymore simply to avoid hearing that question. (This was the same friend who told me that she and her husband didn't have my problem -- he just looks at her and they get pregnant....)
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Sorry she is so inconsiderate of what you are going through...she obviously has no clue.
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I have said it before and will say it again, fertile people do not and never will get it!

I do have to say I would have laughed at her anology as well. How clueless some people can be!
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there are so many people out there that don't understand. they think that we should be dealing with infertilty better, but news there is no eay way to deal with it.
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THAT was an atrociously stupid thing to say.
I think people still don't know how to react to your pain. They don't know the magnitude of it either. People tend to try to relate by using something they are familiar with to comprehend your feelings and they always fall WAY short. Just remember when someone else is in pain that you don't understand to just say "I am sorry, I wish I could do something to help".
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WOW! That was rather insensitive! Maybe she was trying to make you laugh???? Not that that is an excuse for that kind of comment. I don't see how anyone can compare having a child of your own to having big boobs...
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unreal! people are so insensitive! i had a friend tell me that it's ridiculous what people will do with science and that life should be natural and that ivf is just plain wrong! i was speechless!! (ofcourse they have 2 kids with no problems conceiving)
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Wow. I've been TTC for over 4 years now and nothing (including IVF) has worked - so I'd thought I'd heard them ALL! Unfortunately, if she wanted bigger boobs, she'd spend less money having implants done and would be guaranteed the desired result (unlike infertility). If my friend had said that, I'm not sure if I would have responded except to say "I'll give you my DD's and you give me your baby!" Sorry to hear that. Best of luck to you!
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It still amazes me how many people are insensitive and stupid. Like everyone that has replied, only those who struggle with infertility understand. All you can do is ignore it. Sorry you had to hear it. Keep trying.
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