
Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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I am at that point. The point I get to about once every few months, where I am thinking about giving up. I count my blessings for my four year old son. I think that maybe I should just be happy with him and stop the heartache, headache, arguments, guilt trips, financial agony, wondering. I want a conclusion. I want to be free from the process, the medical jargon, the constant searching for new "cure alls". I want to know the outcome. I want control. The dreamer in me believes that the minute I stop trying I will get pregnant to my chagrin after trying everything under the sun.
I am currently teaching the women's lib movement and the glass ceiling in my case is the cult of domesticity in a way. I am below seeing all the happy mothers popping children out one after another without a second thought. Ironically last week I was offered a promotion and I don't know what to do. My career and baby dreams are colliding, Do I move forward even if it means increased stress? Or do I quit entirely and focus on getting pregnant? I feel so jumbled that I can't even stick with one cure all for any amount of time because I want instant gratification. I also feel that I am racing against the clock. I always thought IVF was a sure thing but now I see that is not entirely true. I feel cheated. I feel beaten. I will feel better in the morning.
I am currently teaching the women's lib movement and the glass ceiling in my case is the cult of domesticity in a way. I am below seeing all the happy mothers popping children out one after another without a second thought. Ironically last week I was offered a promotion and I don't know what to do. My career and baby dreams are colliding, Do I move forward even if it means increased stress? Or do I quit entirely and focus on getting pregnant? I feel so jumbled that I can't even stick with one cure all for any amount of time because I want instant gratification. I also feel that I am racing against the clock. I always thought IVF was a sure thing but now I see that is not entirely true. I feel cheated. I feel beaten. I will feel better in the morning.
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As far as your job, that's tough. Will it make you happy to accept it and keep your mind a little busy? Sometimes, promotions aren't at the best timing and you might need to really think about it.
That whole as soon as you stop trying you'll get pg, don't believe it. I stopped actively ttc for about a year and nada, nothing!!! But, the break did help me calm down and enjoy life a little. Now, I'm back trying not to get as crazy. I'm just moving along in ART procedures and hoping it works. Are you going IVF now?
Good Luck girl and Hang in there...you can do this!
There are many things I have not tried. I have only exhausted the commercial products not the scientific stuff.
Regarding the promotion I have asked for a month to think about it and they agreed.
I feel better already. There is a ray of hope peeking through.
Hang in there and do what's right for you and your family. A break is not a bad thing. Keep the faith. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Kristen
The best thing I did for myself emotionally was to draw a line in the sand. I don't have to carry a baby to be a parent or have a family. I have a family now and we are whole. Me, partner 2 dogs, 2 cats. We would very much like to add a little 2 legged child to the mix, but I didn't know if it would be by my body. So I gave my self a timeline so to speak. I had had so may stims and IUI's and IVF's that I was going crazy, it got worse each time it didn't take. So together my partner and I came up with a plan. I had 6 embryos left "on ice" after my last IVF cycle in November. I wasn't emotionally ready for the January cycle so after discussing it with my doc at length, I signed up for the March transfer. I had 5 embryos defrost ok and we decided to put all 5 in. This was a last ditch effort. It was my last time trying and If it didn't take, I had to schedule surgery to remove at least one ovary if not the entire apparatus. But if it didn't work, our journey was not over. I luckily kind of have abackup most people don't, my partner. She would start trying, and if that didn't work, we would begin seeking adoption agencies.
I am going in tomorrow to confirm my 7 positive pregnancy tests!
Don't give up, just set a timeline (it doesn't matter if its a month, a year or ten years) and strategy with your significant other and RE and stick to it. It's the best way to know there is an end that YOU chose and the end doesn't have to be THE END. You never know what may happen!
I can say that the moment that I stopped stressing and obsessing about getting pregnant was the moment that I began to live my life again. To truly love my husband, love myself and be grateful for all the blessings that I do have in life...I have more than I could dream of. Maybe the job is a good thing, it will give you something to focus on in the meantime. You can make changes later if necessary...we all adapt to change,its our nature.
I'm not sure what your religious preference is,but no matter what you believe, you have to know that things happen just the way they are supposed to. Maybe the promotion, lack of a child and what ever other struggles you may be having may, in retrospect be exactly what was needed at the time. I also believe that we make our own destinies through our thoughts and words...think positive thoughts always, you have the control. Don't let another pessimistic, negative comment come out of your mouth, or become a thought it your head. Before you know it, you will not only fell great but just maybe, your angel will be on its way. Please keep in touch. Relax, take the job and give yourself some peace from the worry...take care of you :-) Blessings!