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My DH isn't really kean on the idea of IUI, he wanted to use the GonalF injections to have timed intercouse. My Dr said that was fine, we could do it how ever we wanted. I'm confused, not sure if we do it that way, if it'll work, as my DR said he would only do the HSG if he was doing the IUI. Now I've went to have a HSG done before, with my OBGYN, and he couldn't get the procedure to work. Said my Cervix was too tight, and he had the wrong cathader(?) This makes me think that I should get another HSG from my Endo DR, either way so atleast we know that my tubes are open. After all of that, I was just wondering if anyone has gotten any resistance from their DH??
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I think you have the right idea to get the HSG done again-if anything, for peace of mind and to see what to do after that.

I'm not sure why your DH isn't too kean on it..does he have a SC issue? Has he had a SA done? or is it an insurance thing. If i didn't have health insurance, I know I couldn't afford it.

I've heard and been told that if it's your DH's issue, then IUI's aren't very effective.
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No, I can't say that I have. I know he was not always thrilled with the idea of having to go to a room for samples. Maybe that is part of it.
Do they want to do IUI b/c his numbers are low?
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He has had a SA and the DR said that he's got a high number count, with a small percent of them being abnormally shapped. Dr didn't seem to think that this was going to be a problem for the IUI. I think he's having abit of a hard time with the fact that I'm not able to conceive naturally. Thus the timed intercourse.
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oh...well hopefully he's not putting any added pressure or stress! Tell him that I think it's 1 in 5 people have trouble trying to conceive. It's more normal then he thinks!
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what does "bump" mean?
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I think what your describing is abnormal morphology which my DH has as well. Our RE also recommended IUI and if it doesn't work then to move onto IVF w/ICSI. I can understand why your DH may have a hard time with the IUI. I am sure all of us thought we would conceive naturally and then when told it might not be likely it is a weird feeling. I'm sure he'll come around though and realize that getting pg may not happen as you both orginally anticipated but the end result will be just as special!
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I am totoally in with you ladies....sometimes it feels like dh isnt in on ANY OF THIS!! I jsut found out I have a cyst on my ovary so I told dh I wanted to try soemthing else this month since bd'ing is still too painful. I told him to put his boys in a cup for me and I was going to use the Instead cup AT home insemination routine....he said he thinks having a baby should happen naturally through sex...not using cups...and that he'd rather wait until my cyst goes away to start trying again! I hate the idea of wasting another month or longer....
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Staydes BUMP means that they are replying to the topic so it gets bumped back to the top so more people can see it
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I think getting an hsg is a great first step. It was the first step with my obgyn before refering me to re.

Does your husband understand what an hsg is?
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I think all of our husbands have had some sort of resistance. Partly because men and women just deal with the subject of infertility differently and partly because they don't want to be labeled as having a problem with "their boys"
My husband is having a hard time now with IVF. He says he hates to see me go through all the stuff and all he has to do is give a sample. However, we both want a baby and have been trying for over 2 years. Therefore, I feel like I have to go through this to make it possible.
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I agree with the other ladies, you should deffinitely push for another HSG no matter if you are doing IUI or timed intercourse. I think that as much as our DH's want to get what we are going through I don't know if they will ever totally get it. I know that we had been trying for 15 months before our first IUI and my husband questioned if we were really ready to take that step b/c he didn't think that we were there yet-that we didn't have that big a problem. We ended up doing IUI and he was fine with it, but I think it takes them longer to really get it. Good luck!
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I know this is very serious, and honestly I don't know what I'd do... my selfesteem would be suffering badly. But on a humerous note.... if only my husband wouldn't want it every time he looked at me. Sorry if it hurt your feelings. :(
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OMG I'm so sorry, I posted this to the wrong one. I should be more careful....!!!!
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I would say that if your cervix is tight, then IUI is the way to go. If your OB couldn't get a catheder up there, then the sperm don't have much of a chance. My DH hasn't had any issues with providing samples, but if he did, I would tell him to suck it up. The whole "I wanted to conceive naturally" just isn't in the cards. Men need to accept it and move on. Good luck
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