I hate that people feel they can give you advice. Not trying so hard will not make my DH sperm more normal or me younger! You have every right to be mad!

I have heard the quit trying so hard, stop thinking about it, I never had a problem getting pregnant, be patient, if it never happens, then it wasn't meant to be , blah, blah, blah. I always thought that these people were just VERY insensitive. I have come to realize, that most people just really don't know what to say, so they say what they feel that we want to hear. Doesn't make it any easier to take when it happens.

I agree with Jencare. I think people just say what they think will make us feel better. However, more often than not, it does the opposite. That is why I think this is such a great support system. We all understand.

That deffinatley makes sense, but also doesnt make it any easier. I also get a lot people pointing out that "we are young and have time" which drives me nuts. Just because we are young doesnt mean we deserve to go through years of this torture and pain. People can be VERY insensitive.

I want to scream every time people tell me to stop trying and it will happen. It drives me crazy.

I just don't think people get it. For me it's just easier not to tell people. MF is one of our issues and I've actually had male friends say well you can have some of mine...hahaha...ya that would solve my problems!
I hope things get better for you.

I hear you when people say thing like that it make you wan to slap them. I hate it when people are like "Why are you trying your so young you have your whole life to have babies" when they don't know me or my situation. Good venting!

yes and YES! sometimes i get really sad that having Infertility is such an individual problem. i dont know how to explain, but its like unless its you guys that know what we are going thru, that no one else really understands or emphathizes. they dont get how much this consumes us on all levels and this is the hardest most emotionally charged issue to conquer.

people are always saying that bunch of crap and it really annoys me, so i ask them when they became a doctor? some people are just insensitive others are just ignorant. dont let they get to you what you are doin is more important than that. god bless and baby dust to you x

I hate the advise!! I know people are just trying to help but it makes me want to rip my hair out. My mother loves to tell me that DH and I should just go on vacation and it'll happen. Everytime i talk to her she tells me about another couple who went on vacation and poof they were pg. Believe me if I thought a vacation would be the miracle drug, I would leave work right now and jump on the next plane!

Yes, I found it easier after a while to socially withdraw myself. I just couldn't take the ?'s anymore. But I still had to deal with the pregnant woman at work who even had the nerve to not only expose her pregnant belly to me, but asking me to feel the baby kick... that pretty much topped the cake! I tried not to be mad because they really can't relate and I think she's so into her 1st pregnancy, I guess she just wants to show off and wasn't thinking.

I am so with you on this one!! I have friends and family all around me getting prego and I getings from everyone! And "all in God's time, it'll happen. Just be patient" They just don't understand. One can't really if they've never been there themselves.

I made the mistake of letting grandmotherly woman know we were trying and she has made it her mission to ask every time she sees me if I am pregnant yet. There has been quite a bit of uncomfortable advise dispensed. The last time she asked and I told her that I wasn't she asked me "why not"???!!!

Seriously, is there a more stupid question?

I have learned my lesson and when people ask I usually smile and shrug. I know they usually don't mean to be hurtful, but it isn't a topic most people can relate to.

PPL JUST DONT THINK THAT WHAT THEY SAY CAN REALLY HURT US. THEY ACTUALLY BELIEVE THEY ARE HELPING SOMETIMES. UGGHHHH.

I have a co-worker that tells me to get drunk and relax. Another just keeps telling me, Oh here you can have my kid (problem child from hell, no thanks) I've gotta think that they really don't care enough to hear what I've got to say, about what I'm "really" going thru. So they say things that they think will make me smile for the moment. THeir way of short-term encouragement.