Hi all. So, I have been through endless sessions of 'when are you guys going to have a baby' questioning from various people who don't know how hard we have been trying and I have learned to cope with it. The place I am struggling, is with my in-laws. My FIL is so excited to have a grandchild (my husband is their oldest and their only other child is seven years younger so she's not going to be giving them any soon). He just keeps on with the little comments about how he's looking forward to it and how excited he is and everything else - as if just my husband wanting me to be pregnant so badly wasn't enough. I know he doesn't mean to upset me and he doesn't understand that he is. I have tried to explain it to my husband and he just tells me that he knows it's not on purpose and that his father doesn't mean anything bad by it. I know that's true, but it's still killing me. I know if I try and say anything to my FIL, I'll just start crying and that's the last thing I need (trust me, we have a LONG and unpleasant history). How do you guys deal with pressures from family members who don't (and can't) understand without alienating them?
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