I meant to say my friend wanted me to hear firsthand and not from anybody else about her pregnancy...

hi hun its not the end yet, i am on my 4th attempt now and at moment i am waiting to see if it worked my pregnancy test is on friday , my nails are all gone x

I am right there with you on this one, we did our first IVF cycle in August and 3 days before my test my period started, they still had me test just in case and of course nothing...it was a perfect cycle form what they said and we put back 2 perfect embies that were what they call HIP (High Implant Potential) and they were very optomistic and nothing :(...we are on break until March of next year and then we are trying a new cycle as the 2 perfect embies we had left didnt make it to freezing stage.. I am still having a hard time with it but it is getting a little better....just looking forward to next cycle and keeping +++++ thoughts.

Hi, i had the a failed IVF last month- everything went well and I was confused and upset that it did not work. I have started meds for a FET next month. I am sorry that it did not work but don't give up,have faith:)

I am not there yet as I am in the middle of an IVF/ICSI cycle. I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am that it did not work. Does anyone know statistics for each time for IVF? What are the chances of it working over three tries?

I am so sorry to hear about your failed IVF cycle. I can completely relate as it also happened to me 4 weeks ago. Everything right through to transfer was flawless and than i received our BFN!!! While in my 2ww i also found out one of our friends was 10 weeks preg at the time. The entire process is very difficult and right now, your emotions are normal. I too, didn't want to even think about another cycle but once i worked through my emotions and accepted that for whatever reason it didn't work and it was time to move on with a game plan did i feel a little bit better. It still hurts at times b/c we didn't ask for our infertility and many others (outside of DS) don't understand what we go through but i take everything one day at a time, one step at a time and one emotion at a time. I am open with my emotions and find it helps. In time, you'll feel at piece and willing to do whatever it takes until you achieve your miracle..it will happen for us, just keep believing that and stay strong.

Its so hard to give advice on how to deal with the pain....for my failed IVF, i had to sit back and think about how much i do have to be thankful for and keep busy, busy, busy...It is so easy to get obsessed with having a baby and forget about the world around you...I have 9 nieces and nephews between 2 sisters, so i can definately understand feelings of inadequacy and loss....All i can suggest to you is to try and remain positive and enjoy sex the way it supposed to be....like when you were younger and you would pray that you werent pregnant, lol....Life is sooo short and living everyday to its fullest is so important....a friend of mine once told me that God would not put a yearning in your heart for something if he didnt intend on blessing you with it! Take care of you and keep your chin up!

I am so sorry. It is a tough time, and I know it's not fun to hear about others getting PG. My neighbor laughed at me that I've been TTC 18+ months and said "Wow - I'm so glad I don't have to go through all that!", then she got PG on 2nd try a few months ago. Can you believe someone would laugh about this to our faces? But, they just don't understand. I'm sorry you are going through this.

I'm sorry your first try didn't work. It's very disappointing and I know easier said than done but try to stay positive because it could take a few trys. I hope it works for you next time. :o)

I just went through the same thing. I did first IVF the last week of August and got the call mid September that it did not work. We had real good embryos too. The progesterone made AF late, so I was not sure until they called. A week later my best friend came home from honeymoon and was pregnant. I even got to see the HPT :-/
It was her first attempt to get pregnant. It was so hard b/c I was still grieving (and that is what it felt like) the fact that the two embryos they put back in me did not implant.
Not to mention the hormones that had me all messed up. It took a few weeks for me to feel better.
They were not able to freeze any of my remaining 10 embryos either. I am getting ready to do another cycle. Today is day #1 for me. That will put me having ER/ET the first week of December.
I am glad I gave myself the last few weeks to get back to "normal" but am glad I am doing another cycle almost right away. It gives me hope again.
I am sorry your cycle did not work. I can tell you that talking to the women at DS made a HUGE difference for me.

ah ya, mine was also IVF/ICSI

i am currently waiting to hear about my 4th ivf cycle..i will find out friday..i know i can't give up..i don't get it either my 2nd cycle i had really good embryos and nothing..
it doesn't seem fair. I'm hoping to get good news friday, but i'm not feeling very positive since it is my 4th try, but what choice do i have, but to keep going. It's never easy getting bad news, but keep your chin up and hope for the next time

I just want to give support. I haven't yet had a failed IVF but I have had 3 miscarriages and LOTS of treatment set backs. It really feels like it's the end of the world when this happens. For me starting a new cycle right away is the only thing that kinda puts a band-aid on my pain or helps occupy my thoughts. I will pray for you and your family. You will get through this eventually.

I took at 5 month break from anything and my DH & I went to Europe for 3 weeks. I'm in the middle of my 2nd IVF cycle, transfer is scheduled for tomorrow if the embryo's are doing well. I am terrified and had a mild panic attack before this cycle as I remember the pain of the failed cycle... I want the joy this time. I did acupuncture this time, last time I only did massage with the cycle. My DH & I are unexplained so everything we do seems like a shot in the dark.

Thanks for great responses - what a fab website. I feel really lifted today by all the encouragment. Thanks.. is good to have found y'all. Anyone got any experience of acupuncture with IVF as am wondering about doing some before next cycle??