
Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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Don't assume you can trust your Doctor. Just a piece of advice don't be in the position I am b/c I trusted my DR. Here's my story:I have been TTC for a year and a half. Last Dec, my husband came with me to one of my regular obgyn 6 month appt's to see why we haven't conceived in 8 months. My Dr (who I have been seeing for 15 years) immediately started scheduling tests. The first test was for my husband to have a semen analysis. A couple of weeks later, his results came back. My Dr. called me and said everything was normal and the test results were good. Over the next few months, I had multiple invasive procedures to see if I was ovulating, if my fallopian tubes were open, etc. All those tests came back "normal" At that point my Dr prescribed Clomid. I had not charted in the past and decided to do so. After 3 months on Clomid and charting my temp and cervical fluid, nothing was happening. My Dr. then decided to refer me to a fertility Dr after 7 months of him actively treating me. Of course things progress slowly, and it took another 3 months to get the ball rolling with the fertility Dr. Again he put me on Clomid in addition to HCG shot and progesterone. Again, nothing happened. Frustrated and feeling down, we decided to have an IUI done. The 1st of 2 injections were scheduled and my husband supplied his "sample". My fertility Dr. proceeds to tell me that my husbands sperm count is very low (1 million, normal is 20-40 million). I was shocked to say the least. We had discussed that the semen analysis from 9 months ago was normal, but weirdly, he never had the results of the test faxed to him from my obgyn. He did the procedure anyway, since there was some sperm swimming. I started getting suspicious, but he said, maybe its a fluke and we'll be able to tell more tomorrow when my husband supplies the 2nd sample. Again, worse then the day before, there are no sperm at all!! So, he refer's my husband to an urologist. The urologist requests that my husband bring along the test results from Dec because something must have happened in the interim that his sperm count drastically decreased. After 2 weeks of attempting to get the test results from my obgyn's incompetent staff, I finally have them in my hand, and I don't like what I see. I call my obgyn immediately b/c I want him to interpret the results for me. Again he states that the test came back normal. Not satisfied with his answer, I then called the fertility dr for him to tell me the difference between the original test results, and what he saw 2 weeks ago performing the IUI. He proceeds to discount what my obgyn informed me, and said the original test results are NOT normal and read his sperm count is low. In fact, scribbled in handwriting right on the test results says "extremely low" So now, here I am 10 months later, put thru numerous tests and medications, and all along, my husband' sperm count was so low, there was "virtually no chance of me getting pregnant" A direct quote from my fertility Dr. I am so very sad and angry. Angry that I was put on Clomid which is said to cause ovarian cancer if taken for prolonged periods. Angry that I lost 10 months. Angry at myself for not proactively asking for test results in hand. Sad that after 15 years I have to find a new Obgyn. I can't trust him now. Either his is a total idiot and can't read tests results, or he saw the insurance card as money in his pocket. I am frustrated beyond words and need to talk to someone who can relate. I am a very impatient person by nature. I just had my 35th b-day and worry about my age trying to conceive for the first time. I am trying to keep positive and waiting to see what the urologist says. Oh and the kicker to this, when my fertility Dr informed me that the original test results were not normal, he said, "well we need to get aggressive and talk IVF" Can you believe it!!! We haven't even seen the urologist yet and he is talking a very expensive procedure that isn't covered by my insurance. No offense to men in general, but only a guy would be this insensitive!
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As far as your new fertility doctor, he's probably right. I know he wasn't overly sensitive with his manerisms (men seldom are), but... with a count that low, and you being 35... do you really want to waste time and money pursuing "other options"? To put it in perspective... I'm young and relatively healthy, so I don't have the time issue quite so much, although endometriosis IS progressive and the longer it is around, the less our chances. My husband and I first started active fertility treatments in July of 2006. Before that, we'd been blindly prescribed clomid because I DON'T normally ovulate. Since last year in July, we have paid over $10,000 out of pocket. And this is with 80% of just about everything other than meds (which have never been more than 200 per month) being covered by insurance. We've been assured that with IVF, we've got a 90% chance of conceiving, but no guarantee of how many cycles it will take. The new RE, with some new protocols for my immune issues, feels that one or two is all it will take. At my clinic, a limited stim cycle is $5,000. We could have done two of those for what we've spent on other treatments that did nothing for us. **shrug** not saying that men should not maybe try and at least pretend sensitivity, but just saying that the RE might be right.
For us the urologist said there is almost nothing that can be done to increase sperm count. My husbands count was the same as ur husbands. Exactly!! 1 million and ZERO!! two samples. It's hard to take but IVF may be ur only option.
I went through 12 days of stim meds, trigger shot and then my cycle was canceled on day of my IUI for the same reason as you, when DH went to do "his part". It actually would have been unconcionable (spelling???) for the doc to proceed with the IUI at that point.
I was just like u. VERY ANGRY I had to seperate myself for the whole weekend from my hubby upstairs crying because I didn't feel I should take it out on him on one hand but on the other hand I thought he should have been more dilegent with his part just as I was with my part. I also was sooo angry with all doctors involved as well.
We did take the step to IVF and this is the end of the road for us if it doesn't work. I had my transfer yesterday. I think it's better u know now than to have spent as much $$ as we did before finding out...30k!!!
Good Luck and anymore advice I can give don't hesitate to ask.
DS has pulled me out of the same place u are now. You will love the support u get here.
Good Luck!
My OB told us that DHs SA came back extremely low and my RE disagrees and says that DH is just fine! Augh!
And the Clomid thing...oivay! I have issues about that too...malpractice issues. But thats another post for another time. I'm too tired to write it all out!