
Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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Well, so our journey begins and well, it is official. We have male factor infertilty. The RE said there is less than 3% chance per month that we will concieve on our own and that the morphology is so bad, it is likely that a potential pregnancy would not be viable and end in miscarriage like our first after several years of trying did. So, first of all, if it were not for all of you ladies and reading your stories and taking your advice, I would not even know what a RE is... so THANK YOU.
It is funny, I feel relieved to finally have the answers and I am ok with it all and ready to conquer whatever God has planned for us. My husband, on the other hand is totally in shock and devastated. Understandably so, but he is just not where I am yet. I will give him time.
The worst part of it all is that we have been really fighting for the past three weeks and I know that we must resolve our issues before moving forward.
The RE is recommending that we go straight to IVF with ICSI and it has been confirmed that our insurance pays for NOTHING!!!
I have soooo many questions.... like where do we get $16,000? ...what is involved in all of this? ....can I work during IVF? ...when can we start? ....is there really a 50/50 chance that it will work and what are the odds that it will with one shot?
I am putting the cart before the horse, I know. There is still a lot that we have to do before we even start this process. I just cannot help but wonder where you all get the strength to go through with this?
Thanks for listening,
Kim
It is funny, I feel relieved to finally have the answers and I am ok with it all and ready to conquer whatever God has planned for us. My husband, on the other hand is totally in shock and devastated. Understandably so, but he is just not where I am yet. I will give him time.
The worst part of it all is that we have been really fighting for the past three weeks and I know that we must resolve our issues before moving forward.
The RE is recommending that we go straight to IVF with ICSI and it has been confirmed that our insurance pays for NOTHING!!!
I have soooo many questions.... like where do we get $16,000? ...what is involved in all of this? ....can I work during IVF? ...when can we start? ....is there really a 50/50 chance that it will work and what are the odds that it will with one shot?
I am putting the cart before the horse, I know. There is still a lot that we have to do before we even start this process. I just cannot help but wonder where you all get the strength to go through with this?
Thanks for listening,
Kim
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First welcome! Everyone here is awesome and friendly and you will find more than a few buddies to vent to or cry to.
Second, I want to tell you that I am in the same boat as you! After we got married in 2003, we stopped using contraceptives and I wasn't getting pregnant. We moved to ovulation kits for a year and still, nothing. Finally, I mentioned to my OBGYN that I wasn't getting pregnant...to make a VERY long story short, it was discovered my husband has 5% morphology and is considered "non-fertile." We were also given a low percentage to conceive on our own (2%) and it has been along ride since then.
I felt like I was hit in the stomach when I heard non'fertile. I can not even to begin to tell you the emotional journey we have been on and I could never even to begin to understand how my husband feels. I know he feel like "less" of a man and is embarassed and hasn't even opened up to his closest friends, only his father.
I can only tell you that you can not lose hope and there are many options out there. I am shaking right now when I write this because those first few months were the scariest most traumatic and trying time of our short marriage. I can tell you this, I would not want to go through this with anyone else except him by my side.
There's so much information out there and I would be happy to answer any questions you have. There's just too much to put down right now.
The important thing is that you have identified the problem and you are about to begin a journey that will be filled with very happy times and some very sad times (hopefully really happy times only).
When we first found out about my husbands morphology I cried that first day, that first few hours I was a wreck. But the I sat back and thought about how he must be feeling and I tried to cry in private as much as possible so I could be strong for him. Of course, we are so far into this journey that I can cry in front of him and it's no big deal...but those couple of months are very delicate and remember that men handle this sort of news very differently. So try and be strong for him even though you are dying inside. After our last failed IVF my husband actually confided in me that he was scared I would leave him because he couldn't give me children. How sad is that?
So, now I am officially crying!!!! Anyway, i've gone on way too long but, I just wanted to say I've walked in your shoes and I know exactly what you are feeling...
I wish all the luck on your journey!!!!
I am not sure about the costs b/c I live in MA and most of our IVF cyles are covered.
I worked during IVF, just taking off the days needed for ER and ET and a few days in between.
The odds of it working vary. They tell us the morning of ET the odds of it working. Last time it was a 40-45% chance it would result in a pregnancy.
Good luck!
As for paying, neither of our insurances paid for any part of the IVF so we used some savings and I got a part-time job in the evenings to help offset the costs.
Good luck!