I had an experience last weekend with two of my closest friends and feel bad about the feelings I had with the situation. I was explaining to them how hard it has been on me to go through infertility and all of the treatments and what we are looking at going through here in the near future and the pain of not being able to have the child I so dearly desire. Both of my friends have two children each from previous marriages, unexpected pgs and they are now in new marriages and want to have children with their new spouse. Well they both have their tubes tied and naturally now can't have children unless they go through treatment of some sort. Well, they started joining in voicing how hard it is and how sad they are that they cannot just have another baby naturally. It was almost like they were telling me that they understood exactly what I felt like and that they were upset about their infertility also. I became very upset about this and while I would never yell at my friends simply stated "At least you have two children already that you can go home to every night and hold and kiss and at least you know what it's like to have a child and know what it's like to be pg and go through childbirth." I feel bad that I became so upset with them. I feel like they couldn't possibly understand what I'm feeling, they've had children while I'm sitting there empty handed. Does anyone else have these feelings or this problem and why is it so upsetting. It almost made me feel like they are so selfish and while they were probably just trying to be supportive I took it totally the wrong way. HELP!
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