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Have any of you had issues with friends/family snagging baby names that you've picked out? I don't have any kids of my own, but so far all the names that I've liked have been used by family. (4 names and 4 different family members). It sounds crazy and maybe selfish, but i'm wondering how you all deal.
Anyway, my older and one younger sister are pregnant. My younger sister called and told me what they wanted to name their daughter. I asked her not to because that was the one name left that I would like to be "saved" for me. (Is that terrible?) She named her other daughter Rilee (It was a name I picked out.) They changed the name.
So then I find out that my older sister is pregnant. She told 2 of my younger sisters (including the one who is pregnant) that she wanted to name her baby Madison Nichole. Yep-that would be the name that my husband and I picked out. Both of my younger sisters told her that was the name that I picked out. She basically didn't care. (I told her some time ago that was the name I wanted and my DH told her DH that too before they were married/pregnant.) Anyway...she called me and told me that was what they were going to name the baby. Well, I had already told her that I really liked that name and that it was "off limits". She acted like she didn't care and said whatever. Well then she "changed" the name.
Sorry...long story....She sent me a text message on Sunday and then called saying that I should go ahead and use Madison Nichole because she had picked something else out. I took it as a "oh, thank you. You're so generous. Thank you for thinking of me."
I know it sounds ridiculous because it's only a name, but it really bothers me. I would like just one thing that is sacred.
Anyway, my older and one younger sister are pregnant. My younger sister called and told me what they wanted to name their daughter. I asked her not to because that was the one name left that I would like to be "saved" for me. (Is that terrible?) She named her other daughter Rilee (It was a name I picked out.) They changed the name.
So then I find out that my older sister is pregnant. She told 2 of my younger sisters (including the one who is pregnant) that she wanted to name her baby Madison Nichole. Yep-that would be the name that my husband and I picked out. Both of my younger sisters told her that was the name that I picked out. She basically didn't care. (I told her some time ago that was the name I wanted and my DH told her DH that too before they were married/pregnant.) Anyway...she called me and told me that was what they were going to name the baby. Well, I had already told her that I really liked that name and that it was "off limits". She acted like she didn't care and said whatever. Well then she "changed" the name.
Sorry...long story....She sent me a text message on Sunday and then called saying that I should go ahead and use Madison Nichole because she had picked something else out. I took it as a "oh, thank you. You're so generous. Thank you for thinking of me."
I know it sounds ridiculous because it's only a name, but it really bothers me. I would like just one thing that is sacred.
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I guess I'm wondering, because a friend of mine is pregnant and naming her son Kasey, which I absolutely LOVE, and have thought since learning the name of her son, about using it for my own child (Lord Willing) someday- or at least a variation of the name. But I wouldn't want to do that especially if it would cause ill feelings- even though she hasn't expressed anything negative about me using the name as well?
So in part, I think my sisters picked the names they have because they liked themafter they heard me say them. Its not to say that they wouldnt have liked them anyway, but really given my circumstances and theirs (between 3 sisters they have 12 and 2 more are on the way) that they could chosen different names. Or at least in this instance agreed that Madison Nichole was off limits.
Interestingly enough, both of my now pregnant sisters wanted to name their baby Madison. The younger of the 2 I asked not too and explained to her why. She said not a problem and decided on Morgan (Shes due in 2 months). She even stuck up for me with our older sister when she hear that the older sister was going to use Madison. (Oddly enough she named her 1 year old the same name as my step-son.)
My younger sister, the sister that is due in 2 months, and myself typically dont even get a long very well. In fact we dont have a good relationship so when I found out that she stuck up for me with our older sister and changed her to be babys name, I called and thanked her. It was the kindest thing she has ever done for me and it meant a lot.
So in a nut shell, I think they like the names and on the other hand, I think my older sister is semi heartless. She can just be a mean person. I think it is sad that I dont have any children of my own and the one name that hasnt been used seems to be a family topic lately and given everything Ive gone through, Id like to think that my family loves me and is considerate of my feelings.
Its betrayal from the family/friend? Shes my sister. She visited me in the hospital after my ectopic. It wasnt a minor surgery. My tube ruptured and I lost 4.5 units of blood before surgery. It was serious.