OMG I can't believe how close your issue on this is to mine...name and all! I had a miscarriage May 2006. We already had picked out the name if it had been a girl. MADISON. No middle name yet but Madison for sure. Well needless to ay the miscarriage was hard and I so badly needed something to love so I bought a hemilayan cat 3 weeks later and named her Madison. Well my cat died suddenly in my arms of liver failure 9 months later. The very next month my sister got pregnant by her boy friend of 2 months. We were talking about names one night and I said I still would like to use Madison, and she said "oh I like that" well several days later she informs me Madison Paige is the name if she has a girl. Ofcourse it ended up being a girl. I begged and pleaded with her telling her how heart breaking it would be for me, but she didn't care. My Mom and my DH told her the same thing, but she didn't care. Madison Paige was born March 2007.
I hold a huge grudge still. My relationshp with my only sister will never be the same.
I feel stupid about it sometimes, but I feel it's justified:)

this didn't happen to me but, my friend/couple had picked Emily for the name of there daughter that was on the way, they new it was a girl. Our other friend/couple was pregant at the same time, due 5 weeks before the other. Well they named their daughter Emily before the couple that had picked it out before them and told theme. We all were good friends, went our every firday night for dinner and drinks at 7pm. I know it upset them but, it makes buying personalized presents easier for me! IT IS NOT FAR FOR SOMEONE TO TAKE YOUR NAME!

I would be very upset! We had a couple names picked when we first started ttc and those have been taken so now no one except DH knows the names we've chosen and I am not telling anyone!! I would be very upset if it was my sister who was taking a name that I picked and "called" already. I think that is very hurtful. I feel for you. You start to get attached to a name and then when someone one takes it's awful!

Errr.. i hate that too... i get torn btw telling someone my names and having them steal it or not telling and then they can say i never knew and steal it anyways. toughie. i hate that. good luck

I think that you have every right to be upset. A name is very important in meaning and I believe that it says a lot about what your child will be like. My sis-in-law is pg with a girl and I was scared that she would pick the name that I picked out 3 years ago when we were starting ttc. So then I decided that I don't care if they pick it. I'm going to name my child what I want to name my child, just like they are going to name their child what they want to name their child. It's not fair that just because God trusted us to go through the heartache of infertility we don't get everything we wanted for our child...even a name.

I don't tell anyone my names My friend almost did that to me she kinda did but the name is pronunced differntly aster that I was like nope no more. like my daughter's name now is carrington I ket it a secret.

YES! my best friend....

my baby name is Aidan, she named her son Hayden.......say it out loud.

I would try and keep any more runner up names a secret. I had my DD and named her Cailey. I remember my sister in law saying she had liked it too. I said no way, I came up with the name and the spelling and it wasnt even in baby books back then. Now I have a new name for my next baby but I dont tell anyone except the hubby.

My best advice is to not tell anyone your baby names. This didn't happen to me but it did happen to my sister and brother. However, my sister picked out the same nursery bedding that I've wanted the past 2 years. I confronted her about it but ended up saying I was okay with her using it. I've moved on to other things.

Best of luck!!!

so.. just trying to keep it straight in my head, is the issue that they purposely 'take' the names you have chosen because you have chosen them and they decide they like them as well? Is the issue the name taking itself, or is it the action of purposely taking the name you picked yourself? Is it ownership of the name? Or is it betrayal from the family/friend?

I guess I'm wondering, because a friend of mine is pregnant and naming her son Kasey, which I absolutely LOVE, and have thought since learning the name of her son, about using it for my own child (Lord Willing) someday- or at least a variation of the name. But I wouldn't want to do that especially if it would cause ill feelings- even though she hasn't expressed anything negative about me using the name as well?

My DH and I decided over a year ago what we wanted to name a little girl if we had one. We didn't tell anyone for the longest time what name we picked out. Actually, we were telling people wed name it Whodia. (Trust me with our last name its funny.)

So in part, I think my sisters picked the names they have because they liked themafter they heard me say them. Its not to say that they wouldnt have liked them anyway, but really given my circumstances and theirs (between 3 sisters they have 12 and 2 more are on the way) that they could chosen different names. Or at least in this instance agreed that Madison Nichole was off limits.

Interestingly enough, both of my now pregnant sisters wanted to name their baby Madison. The younger of the 2 I asked not too and explained to her why. She said not a problem and decided on Morgan (Shes due in 2 months). She even stuck up for me with our older sister when she hear that the older sister was going to use Madison. (Oddly enough she named her 1 year old the same name as my step-son.)

My younger sister, the sister that is due in 2 months, and myself typically dont even get a long very well. In fact we dont have a good relationship so when I found out that she stuck up for me with our older sister and changed her to be babys name, I called and thanked her. It was the kindest thing she has ever done for me and it meant a lot.

So in a nut shell, I think they like the names and on the other hand, I think my older sister is semi heartless. She can just be a mean person. I think it is sad that I dont have any children of my own and the one name that hasnt been used seems to be a family topic lately and given everything Ive gone through, Id like to think that my family loves me and is considerate of my feelings.
Its betrayal from the family/friend? Shes my sister. She visited me in the hospital after my ectopic. It wasnt a minor surgery. My tube ruptured and I lost 4.5 units of blood before surgery. It was serious.

I personally find it appalling that your sister used the name that she already knew that you wanted, particularly if you had discussed it with her before she became pregnant. It is one thing if you said to her "I want to use the name Madison Nichole" and she said "Oh no! That's the name that we had just chosen." Rather than deciding on it later. In either case, it seems pretty insensitive and petty. No wonder you don't get along well. Fortunately (not that this helps), there are so many pretty names. I thought I wanted to use Sarah for a girl, if I ever had one, and my SIL used that name (not knowing that was the name I liked), so obviously it wasn't a choice for me to use it. Instead we named our daughter Eleanor, which I love even more. So hopefully it will all work out for you, and you will find the perfect unique name for your little one.

I know exactly what you mean, I had told a family member that I liked a certain name and guess what they used it. So now I haven't told anyone my names that I have picked out other than my mom and of course my husband. And u aren't ridiculous I was so angry when I heard they were using the name I picked out. Knowing that we have been trying and trying and they tried for 2 months and got pregnant. It was frustrating, that was 3 years ago. And it still bugs me a little. But I love that little girl.

I am so sorry this happened to you. I totally understand... It is extremely insensitive... I have a cousin who got pregnant by accident and she wanted to use the name I have picked out for a girl... she actually said "I know that's the name you want, but I like it." It was such an "I'm pregnant now and you're not so I'm gonna use it" attitude. She had a boy anyway, so the name was never used, but I was so hurt and angry at the time. I just don't understand the lack of consideration, especially when the person knows what you've been through and how much you want a baby. Why not steer clear of the name you want, even if just to be supportive and loving about it.