Hello, I know just how you are feeling. I'm 37 and had my first IVF at 31. We've had 2 BFP's, so far, but both ended in early MC. We still have 3 embros frozen, enough for one more try. I'm scared to death that it will not work for us this next time, either, but do not want to wait too long because of my age. I guess the only thing to do, is pray and hope everything will work out. Adoption is not an option for us. Do you think it might be for you?

try not to worry, although i am sort of in the same boat. At my clinic the success rates for women 35-40 is actually a little higher then 30-35. That gives us hope!

Know what you mean, I'm pushing 37 and we just started IVF. You always listen to those people saying oh you're still young to have kids. Little do they know that past 35 you are considered "old" as far as fertility goes! That's because nobody talks about it- that's my opinion anyhow. I've been advertising my infertility so that others won't have to go through what I'm going through right now. Although we have male factor, and nothing obvious is wrong with me, but my age will play a role in the success of the whole IVF! Good luck with everything. Don't feel too overwhelmed, the shots aren't that bad. I didn't really have any side effects from them.

Consider this: all of my friends are over 35 and having their children naturally. You are NOT old. You are still in baby making mode...look around in this world...a lot of women are having children in their mid to late 30's and into the 40's. Don't feel old. You are SO young. We, too felt like we wasted time on IUIs and then we said "why are we walking when we can run?" And we went for it. Don't beat yourself up over waiting...you can't predict the future...

I am 34 and turning the horrid 35 in two months and three days... No pressure there!

I'm 43 and don't regret waiting. Do I feel too old? Sometimes. But my choices were my choices for good reason, there's nothing to regret. My RE is very encouraging about our chances. Have an FET next week. In the meantime we are hoping to adopt our 2 month old foster baby, our little life-changer who we love madly. Where there's a will there's a way if the goal is to be parents. Good luck to everyone, hoping your baby dreams come true.

I do think you are over reacting. I dont think you are too old at all. I also went to my 1st IVF class on Monday and I felt very overwhelmed. Hang in there things will work out, Good Luck to you.

if you are old i must be ancient, i am 48 and am awaiting the results of my third IUI. my BW US and lining have all been very good just hopeing i have one good egg left in there

Don't you love it though when people ask you if you have kids...that question we all LOVE...and you say something like "Someday." or "It's not as easy as everyone thinks." or "We're trying!" and then their response is "How old are you?" in that upswing question tone! UGH!

I know what you mean. I am 38, 39 in a month and I get so upset at the stats. However, they are just stats and you are a real live person. My mom was 43 when I was born and my sister had IVF last year and gave birth to a healthy son just after her 43 birthday. You are NOT too old.

I agree. I had my first child at 39 and my second at 40. We are doing IVF in hopes of having a third, and I turn 42 in three months! So stay optimistic!

We did our first cycle of IVF this year and I am 38. I was worried about my age as well, but I proved myself wrong. We are now 11 weeks along and doing great. Just try to relax.

I'm also 38 - did 4 IUI cycles and no luck. The stats I saw just put me into a new "category". I asked the RE if my body really knows that it's been 38 for a few months, she said that when I get closer to 40 the stats will be more "real" but we should be ok... Good Luck - positive thoughts!!!

I just wanted to say thank you to all of you and your support! If I didn't have all of you I don't know what I would do. You help with my reality and keep me calm on this bumpy journey. Good luck to all of you who are in this process to - no matter what our age is right?! I've learned from all of you age doesn't matter:-)

Tom'w is my Big 4-0, and I'm 9 1/2 weeks pg w/ my 1st child after the 1st IVF. My DH keeps talking about doing this again ASAP for kid #2 - but I'm not completely on board w/ that one yet.

You can do this! Good luck!