I am eling that way alil that I may never have kids with my hubs this is so terrible.

Right now, I have too much to look forward too. So, I haven't accepted that it might be my fate.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way and hope that you don't give up on your dream.

Good discussion topic. I am currently in the 2ww with my first IVF cycle. Here's my point of view: I want to be happy and live my life with peace of mind. If this IVF thing does not work then I will be accepting my fate as an infertile woman. I want to have a child very very much but I cannot dedicate my whole life to the pursuit of fertility. Our insurances pay for NOTHING and we honestly cannot afford another round of IVF. Besides, I need to be happy at some point, I cannot stand here at the crossroads waiting to see if I'll ever get preggers. And going through the heartache and disappointment over and over again just isn't how I want to spend the next 5 years. My endometriosis is so bad that I just wonder if it is even possible. Also my RE says I will need a hysterectomy at some point. So I feel like my time is running out. And dealing with the endo is extremely painful and I just don't know how much longer I can deal with it. I honestly look forward to the day I get my hysterectomy, I just hope a baby comes first. I'm not saying accepting this fate would be easy or that I wouldn't have some regrets, I just think it would the healthiest thing for me personally.

I do have to admit I have had these thoughts. I just try and stay positive and draw on the good things I have in my life. Most days it works!

Not there yet!

I am not ready to accept that as my fate. I still believe deep down that I will have a child. I am not saying the thought never crosses my mind, because it does. But until that day comes, and I will know if it does, then I am going to keep holding on and doing all I can to have a child. I have just always imagined myself with kids. I used to think God was playing a joke on me b/c I wanted children so much and ended up directing three day care centers at the same time. So I had hundreds of them. But it is not the same.
I wish you the best with what ever happens, but am praying having a child is in the cards for you!

After having three failed IVF's this thought has occured to me. I'm not ready to accept this just yet. I still have some fight left in me!

I cant accept that yet. I have been to an adoption open day, and it was there that I realized that I cant give up on my dream of feeling my baby move inside me, of feeling that overwhelming surge of love to your child, and of someone someday calling me mummy. i think when you are ready to accept that, you will know.

It's always in the back of my mind and I just pray that if it ever gets to a point where I now it's not going to happen, that I will be able to accept it and get on with my life. I will continue doing IUI and IVF until the insurance company cuts us off, but we can't afford to pay for it on our own. I can't even fathom that all this effort and all this anticipation could very possibly all be for nothing. I have never worked so hard for something in my life, and I am not used to not being in control. But I realized that all I can do is do all that I can and know that ultimately it's God's decision. If it turns out that having a child is completely possible -well, I guess I'll just cross that bridge when I come to it. But while there's still a glimmer of hope, I have to hang onto it.

Wow - so many typos in my last post....but at the end I meant to say that "If it turns out that having a child is completely IMpossible ..."

I did think that at one point but then when we first started treatments DH and I sat down and discussed adoption. We are on the same page in that biological children may not be in the cards for us but we will have children one day one way or the other. I am still not giving up on having a child through birth but if that is not God's plan for us I know that adoption will be.

I guess I am not ready to give up and I just keep praying and making baby dust. sometimes when I am down , I think that way, but my dh is always positive and tries to keep my positive.

this thought has tried to creep into my mind a few times but i am not ready to let it hang around.i have been through alot of soul searching in trying to accept the fact that because of my age my eggs are just not going to work and i am going to have to use donor eggs to be sucessful. i have made it through this gauntlet and am ready to move forward. it has not been without many tears as you grieve the loss of the use of your own eggs.but i have made it through all the tears, anger, guilt and after many heart to hearts with DH i am ready.

i personally do not feel at peace with the fact that i may never have a child.....i feel that i need to keep my faith in Christ close at hand and that in His time, not mine, i will have one.....i feel as though i will succeed but have to maybe temporarily surrender my desire until God molds me into the person He wants me to be before He can trust me with a child....i am believing in Him to see me through