I knew at such a young age that I would need to do this that I guess I came to terms with it slowly over the years.
The hard part for me is knowing the eggs are fertilized and then don't make it. But, I guess that would happen on it's own too.
I really want a child and to be a Mother. I want to raise someone and help them grow into a beautiful, strong, loving and careing adult and continue the chain. That is why I go through with the IVF.

I know exactly how you feel. It took me a while to accept IVF, about 6 months. I just felt like it was so unfair that I had to get this much help, I really wanted it to happen naturally. I also thought it was ridiculous that we would have to pay to get knocked up - $11,000!!!! Crazy! But in the long run I thought about my future. Would I regret not trying everything at least once. The answer was yes. How could I accept a childless life and be okay with infertility knowing I could have done something about it. I also didn't like how I felt like I had to do it immediately because the older we get... you know the rest. Anyway my possible future regret made it an easier decision for me. Just follow your heart no matter what, that seems to work for me.

It took me a while to come to terms with IVF too. But, we realized that it was IVF or nothing and my desire for a baby won out over the invasiveness of the procedure. Good luck with whatever you decide.

I do understand what you are saying but like Lioness I found out years ago that my tubes were all screwed up and this would be the only way! My DH is not really a believer in all of this but he sticks by my dream. I look at it this way, yes in God's way the plan would be for it to happen naturally BUT humans are flawed..not perfect, life and time take a toll on our body so God gave man the ability in intellegence to figure out how to help the human flaws and IVF is one of those things,,,all fertility treatments...cancer treatments....etc.....we were blessed the ability to advance, heal, cure....those gifts are natural and came from God as well. The hard part too is know the eggs are fertilized and don't make it....the whole thing no matter what treatment you are doing is rather heartbreaking..now someone needs to cure that! Good Luck with your decision and Best Wishes Always!

I think that if there is something in that is not quite there yet, then it's not for you (at least not yet). The process is a difficult one, and you need to be totally on board. NOT saying that having doubts would make it fail, but I AM saying that this journey is one with no real rules. If and when you are ready, then go for it. Until then, pursue what seems right to you.

I never ever wanted to do IVF, but things spiraled out of control and it became my only option left for me. I lost both tubes to ectopic pregnancies and suddenly it became something I had to do to get a baby. Even the week before I started, I had doubts and fears, but did it anyway. Now it doesn't seem like such a big deal-it's a little strange to think that my baby was created outside my body, but I can get over that.

I was a complete mess before we started IVF. Did 2 IUI's, even our count and mophology was insanely low. Needless to say they didn't work. I was then ready to throw in the towel, had a complete fit. But DH was strong for me (he knew I was just scared of the whole process but he also knew how much we both want a baby). So I did it and I have to say, it wasn't all so bad. I'd have to say that the week or so before ER is when it becomes a little involved, with the appointments, etc. To me the worst part has been AFTER the ET. The 2WW! Even now after 3 positive pregnancy tests I'm still not convinced this actually worked. But it's amazing to think that I am pregnant right now and I forget all the stuff we did to get here! Being a little overwhelmed is perfectly normal I think. This site is really great to get you through things!!

I never imagioned in a million years that we would be told the only way to have our own children would be through IVF. The idea at the time and still today nauseas me to think that a life is created outside my body and all the medications before during and after. I always imagioned being intimate with my DH and creating a life that way. So it was tuff to digest...HOWEVER, on the flip side, i also realize that if it weren't for the intervention so many of us wouldn't have our miracle babies. We are still waiting for ours but you know what??? Once we do get preg, it won't matter how we got there. What will matter is the life inside of us and the life after birth. Try to look at it that way and hopefully that will help you. Good luck. There are so many of us here at DS that are going through or have gone through IVF so you've got a great support group here.

I am also having second thoughts about IVF. I did one IUI and it was not successful. It took me a year and a half to get up the nerve to do that. I kept thinking that maybe we are not meant to have kids and I shouldn't mess with fate. Then I found a new RE that I really liked and decided to try the IUI. He actually wanted me to start with IVF but I said I would try IUI first. I still wasn't sure how I felt about IVF.
Even though we have been trying for 3 years the unsuccessful IUI was more dissapointing than I imagined.
So I started reading more about IVF and am thinking about going for it but still have doubts.
Then I think am I a terrible person b/c I won't do whatever it takes to have a baby???
I also worry that if I don't try this I will always wonder....would it have worked.
Sorry I don't have any words of wisdom for you but feel your pain.

I am where you are in terms of treatment and needing to make the decision soon to move forward. We've had three unsuccessful IUIs. Just had our 4th yesterday and today but we've been starting to wrap our heads around IVF b/c that will be our next step. I was really scared even going into IUI but once it was done and I really understood it I felt much better about the whole prcess. I am still really scared about IVF but do feel much better about it as I feel like I have learned a lot about the process from my RE and from the posts on here. DH and I have been praying that we make the right decisions as we go down this IF road, we've gone to our priest for a blessing to help us make the right decision. Even from just 1 month ago, I do feel much better about moving forward with IVF when the time comes and feel that it will be the right decision for us. Now, just trying to figure out the financial piece! Good luck in your decision and I am here if you want to talk about anything!

Ladies, thank you so much for all of your words of wisdom. I really appreciate the help. I really have no one to talk to about this and it is so great to have a group like this that has "been there".

Hi everyone,
I am new to this forum but have gone thru 2 iui's with clomid and 2 iui's with injectibles.The last 2 iui's my preg hormone detected was on the border line so I don't know if it was the medication which showed that false pregnancy as I got my period. I am thinking about IVF and have the same feeling.Why do I have to go thru all this when I know so many people who concieved naturally .Guess God has selected me to go thru all this .Has anyone tried Ivf .I am too scaid about the egg retrieval process ,Is it painful .Pls share your thoughts.

I'm no expert, but I have gone through 3 IUIs, 2 IVF and 1 FET but still no BFP. This is not to discourage anyone, but my recommendation. Try to get your RE to pinpoint a problem before you jump into IVF. This way the right combination of treatment can be made specifically for you. Although my last IVFwas a miss...I did get pregnant, which was much further than I've ever been in my 4 year journey. I will do it again, this time my dr. has a better picture of my body's needs and hopefully we'll get it right this 1 last time. Pray for the right path and God will bring you to it.

I had all of the invasive and sometimes painful (anyone have a hard time with the endometrial biopsy? - ouch!) infertility testing and my husband and I fell into the "unexplained category". I guess I was in denial and thought we could conceive on our own if "nothing was wrong" with us. Well, after all the tests were completed we tried that for almost a year and of course, realized that we needed extra help. Wanting to take baby steps first, I did a natural cycle IUI - BFN and then an IUI cycle with meds - BFN. Because of my age, I didn't really have the luxury of trying more IUI's and figured I better go "high tech" sooner rather than later, especially since I'd wasted almost a year in denial. I think I had to be emotionally prepared to do the IVF, if I felt I could've achieved a pregnancy doing lesser treatments I would've preferred to do them, but obviously I needed more help. I totally understand your hesitation.

I think many people feel the way you do and then turn to IVF when they're told it's pretty much their only option. Good luck to you!!