Infertility, Secondary Support Group
"Secondary infertility" is difficulty conceiving after already having conceived and carried a normal pregnancy. Apart from various medical conditions (e.g. hormonal), this may come as a result of age and stress felt to provide a sibling for their first child.
Do you ever think "What if it never happens for us again?" What if I can't give my child a sibling? It's scary and sad and some months are so hard to stay positive. Do all of you torture yourself with "What if's" like I do? I wish I could just be laid back about it, but it's getting harder as time goes on.
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I am going through the same feelings you are going through. I don't know if they will go away anytime soon, but we can't torture ourselves!
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I did ponder over all the "what if's" but I finally just gave it over to God. Whatever plan he had for my DH and I, we would accept it and make the best of it. It was INCREDIBLY hard to think like this though when we would see negative after negative each month. Hang in there though!!
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I agree. At what point do you give up? I am at my witts end.
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Yes I totally feel Ya! and I'm so worried they say it's possible that me and hubs can't have kids. It may be genetical the are running test swe have to wait 2 wks. I feel so scared and my daughter is going to be 5 and she keeps asking for a sibling and I tell her to hold on it's coming. But I really don't know if it is or not after 4 m/c's.
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I won't give up till menopause. It is possible till then. No matter what the doc says God does preform miracles. If it never happens there are other ways to look at it. You will have more time money and attention for you current child/children. More flexability to explore the country and each other. It is awfully hard to horseback ride on the beach with a baby plus money will be harder to put toward something like that. I try to think about now. I have a child and he has my full attention. I have to get it right with him. You can't worry about if it never happens, because you don't know if that is true, it adds more stress to you and causes more difficulties to get pregnant. Keep talking to God about it ask for a child and for peace about the situation.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
