
Infertility, Secondary Support Group
"Secondary infertility" is difficulty conceiving after already having conceived and carried a normal pregnancy. Apart from various medical conditions (e.g. hormonal), this may come as a result of age and stress felt to provide a sibling for their first child.

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I'm having problems with sitting there listening to close family and friends who are expecting, talk about names, how they feel what they are having. How do I not scream "you insensitive people" How do you smile for them when inside you are crying and angry? Does that feeling every go away?

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I AM NOT SURE IF THAE PAIN EVER GOES AWAY. I AM GOIN THROUGH THE SAME THING RIGHT NOW 2 OF MY FAMILY MEMBERS ARE PREGNANT ANS SOME TIMES I FEEL REALLY SELFISH FOR BEING UPSET ABOUT IT AND I HAVE A HARD TIME FEELING HAPPY OR EXCITED FOR THEM,BUT INSIDE I KNOW I SHOULDN'T BE LIKE THAT. BUT YOU HANG IN THERE AND BE STRONG FOR YOURSELF THAT'S ALL I AM TRYING TO DO TOO!!!

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I just cried my heart out to my DH at night. He was my rock. I actually had to throw 2 baby showers that happened to fall during my 2ww each time. It was the hardest, most depressing thing I have ever had to do. But I stuck through it with a smile on my face and then cried my litle heart out afterwards. The feeling honestly never went away until the day was got our bfp. I hope it gets better for you though soon! Stay strong!

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Thank You for your thoughts and sharing your experiences with me. I'm sorry to say but it's helps knowing I'm not the only one going through this. I am trying to be happy for them. I know it isn't their fault and they SHOULD have the experience of being pregnant and having a child. I had such a great experience and a wonderful son, that is why this is so difficult to accept. Thank you again and have a wonderful Thanksgiving!! Take care.

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If anyone understands, it's definitely us women on here :) None of my friends could understand what I was feeling, so that's why I initially came to this website and have stayed here for almost a year! Hope you have a goos Thanksgiving as well :)

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I say this all the time, but I feel even more guilty for feeling down b/c I already have one healthy child and feel like a complainer BUT I still can't help it. It's so hard to have so many family and friends who ALL started trying to get PG after I did and all are PG again and will ALL deliver before I may ever get the chance again. It's so hard to stay happy for everyone when you feel so sad inside. Most of my friends complain about PG symptoms like feeling fat at a party this weekend, not being able to drink. I feel like saying, "Shove it up your ***, you fertile person!" :)

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I'm soooo happy to read these (sorry), but I feel the exact same way. My sister in law is pg with #3 which was unplanned and I tell ya this is killing me. We usually spend alot of time together, but I don't want to see her belly growing or hear about how she forgot how fat and yuck she feels pregnant. Sometime I just don't know whether to slap her or cry and scream. I have just come to the end of my 4th 2WW after IUI to be told I have again been unsuccessful. I honestly don't know how desperate I would be right now if I didn't have my DS and DH. Good luck everyone - If there is a god hopefully he will hear us soon!!!!
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