Infertility, Secondary Support Group

"Secondary infertility" is difficulty conceiving after already having conceived and carried a normal pregnancy. Apart from various medical conditions (e.g. hormonal), this may come as a result of age and stress felt to provide a sibling for their first child.

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OK SO THIS WEEKEND I HAD A FAMILY MEMBER ASK ME WHEN I WAS GONNA HAVE ANOTHER BABY. SHE ALSO TOLD ME THAT I WAS GETTING OLDER AND THAT BY THE TIME I HAD ANOTHER CHILD MY DAUGHTER WOULD BE TOO OLD AND WOULD NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH ANOTHER BABY.I TOOK THIS VERY HARD CONSIDERING I AM ONLY 28 YEARS OLD AND ALSO FOR THE FACT THAT EVERYDAY MY DAUGHTER ASK ME WHEN SHE IS GONNA GET A BROTHER OR SISTER. I JUST WISH THAT SHE COULD WALK A DAY IN MY SHOES TO SEE AND FEEL THE PAIN THAT I GO THROUGH SEEING SOMEONE WHO IS PREGNANT OR HAVING TO EXPLAIN TO MY DAUGHTER THAT SHE MAY NEVER HAVE A SIBLING.I WANT HER TO KNOW HOW HARD IT IS TO WANT SOMETHING SO BAD AND NOT BE ABLE TO HAVE IT BUT THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN CONSIDERING SHE IS ON HER 4TH PREGNANCY,MUST BE NICE HUH? HOW DO I TALK TO HER WITHOUT GETTING PISSED OFF ABOUT THE COMMENTS THAT WERE MADE? ANY SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE VERY HELPFUL.
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I know exacltly how you feel I have a 7 year old daughter who askes for a brother or sister all the time. Infact that is what she asked santa for.
Maybe you shoul sit with this person and try to be as calm as possible and tell her that not everyone gets pregnant when they want some of us have to seek help.
Good Luck! Sorry that I was not more helpful.
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too old at 28? bloody cheek! An older child especially a girl will be like a mini mummy and want to help you out. Im about to have a 10 yr gap next year. I took 8 yrs ttc. I say to my daughter when the baby is older it is more likely to go to big sis for advice and help. You have to look at the possitives of the age gap, no point thinking of negatives like they wont be play mates etc etc you cant change it. I wanted a 2 yr gap. If I had that doesnt mean theyll get on they could fight and hate each other. tell her she may click her fingers and fall but its not that easy for all of us. Hope you get your wish
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I think it's a very hard thing to grasp for those that get pregnant easily - that the gap between children is not necessarily by choice for those of us having difficulties conceiving. Some out there are so smug about their perfectly-timed gaps.
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