
Incest Survivors Community Group
This group was created before there was an actual support group on this site for incest survivors. Most people are already comfortable here, feel free to add your thoughts, questions, and opinions. I'm here for anyone that needs me. -metalheadlxlxl

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Hey, I haven't been very brave so far, I have only answered other people's posts, I am really struggling with how I get over what has happened to me, I am terrified that they will come back & do this to me again, even now when I am 30 I am convinced that they will hurt me in some way. I don't think I am even making any sense, sorry if this is just random typing
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I only recently came to terms with the magnitude of what happened to me. I felt terrified someone was going to come and hurt me, too. I can completely relate to your fears. You are making perfect sense.
I think that sometimes when we experience the abuse we bury our fears in order to survive. When they come out later on in our lives, we experience the emotion as if it were happening. Only it isn't. So we think we're crazy, or weak, or not brave. Facing that fear is a very brave thing to do.
If you ever need to chat, I'm here for you. I'm still experiencing random moments of intense fear that I have to talk myself through. I was terrified one of the perps was going to come and kill me. I'm sure he's capable. I spent about 5 days shaking and hiding in the corner before I finally came out of it. It's not easy but just know that eventually, it does get easier. The fear subsides and you become even stronger than you already are.
Be gentle and be patient. You have support here.
Therapy - particularly EMDR
The Courage to Heal book
Group therapy
Journaling
Please be gentle with yourself. (((HUG)))
F E A R
F False
E Evdidence
A Apperaring
R Real
The above works for me, using this acronym. It does not always work. But, for these type of situations ;I repeat it over and over to stop the fear from immobilizing me.
For me, it makes perfect sense. The perps made us a victim. It's difficult not to victimize ourseves. My prayers. Good work!