
Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group
Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.

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Hello everyone, I'm a 29 year old male and I consider myself to be very healthy and fit. I've just recently gotten out of a 10 year old relationship and as I started dating, I've noticed that I am suffering from performance anxiety. I've had one unsuccessful sexual encounter so far and, probably the fact that the girl viewed me as a one night stand and treated me pretty bad when I didn't get an erection, didn't help. I know that it is performance anxiety because I have morning wood and I have no problem maintaining an erection when I am by myself. I first thought that it might be due to my break up with my long time partner but then I remembered that when I first started dating her I had the same problem and, with her help it went away in a couple months and never came back for the next 10 years. I wanted to start this discussion to see if more people have this problem and ways to overcome it.
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The key is to understand that a lot of guys have experienced this, regardless of whether they admit it or not. You are not alone.
It is also VERY important that you do not beat yourself up over it. Learn to be your own bestfriend. It is no big deal if you cannot perform like a rock-hard porn star all the time. The issue is only temporary and will pass soon. There is nothing physically wrong with you, it's only your negative internal voice that gets in the way. Whatever girl you may be in bed with is not going to compare you to other lovers she has had. I've been with several girls in my life and I have personally never compared any to the others. Any girl that treats you badly for not having a crowbar for a penis at that very moment is certainly not worth a second thought anyways.
When attempting to have sex, remember that it is for your enjoyment and you only need to focus on your orgasm, and she is responsible for hers. That is not a chauvinist mindset, it is reality. Focus on whatever turns you on most about her and don't think about anything else.
I promise you will get over this in due time. Soon it will be in the past.
best of luck