So you do or do not get morning erections? If not it is physical. Either way it could be a combo of physical and psychological. Go to the doc and ask them to test your testosterone AND free testosterone to start.They should also test your estrogen b/c this will naturally deplete the testosterone. Alot of times it starts out as physical and then after a few failed attempts your brain turns on you too. There is nothing you can do before you have a full blood workup and see where you are. This is fixable for most people- just gotta figure out what the cause is.

Yes, I do get them. Ironically, my woman takes a drug to sleep that totally knocks her out and waking her up to have sex right then would rarely work. She doesn't even remember if we have sex while she's AWAKE in the morning because of the drug. We made beutiful love on New Year's Day and commented to each other about starting the year right, etc. and she doesn't even remember. I have noticed that I'm more relaxed in the morning also. Ugh.

Have you tried ED drugs? Even if it is somewhat mental- the drugs work and the more like a stud you feel the better it is going to be and you are less likely to psych yourself out. You HAVE to just let the worry go and get into it. Let yourself go completely during lovemaking. Cialis an Viagra were very nice to try. :D

Ok, I've read in an ED book that having trouble with an erection even while masturbating can be psychological also.
Not that I masturbate often mind you! LOL
I try to save it for the fiancee.

I've been researching tongkat ali and I'm going to try that. Even though I am probably dealing with 80% psychological I figure if the increase in testosterone makes me super horny than that may help me ignore any "worries".

FYI - I've read that testosterone supplements or creams can actually shrink your "package"!

Willy,, What is tongkat ali?


Mark

It is used in Malaysia primarily as a way to boost your body's own testosterone production. It has been shown to double it! Some use it to enhance gym workouts. I would think like steroids you will have to keep an eye on your anger management and willingness to stray.

2nd best concentration but best price:
http://www.indonesiatongkatali.com/

General Scoop:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eurycoma_longifolia

Most concentrated:

http://www.sd-200.com/

Stuff called LJ100 also has good reviews but is much weaker causing more to be taken for effectiveness.

If you actually have MEDICALLY DIAGNOSED low testosterone- no amount of supplements will get you back to a normal level. And shrinkage only occurs if you take huge doses like bodybuilders do. What you should do- instead of wasting your money on supplements (i used to sell them- they really wont help you and may do more harm than good) you should go to the doctor and get tested for the things I mentioned. Its a blood test- incase you are shy and worried about someone poking on your package- its just a normal blood test. Surely the future of you relationship is important enough to you to bite the bullet and just freakin go. Once that is all ruled out, or you find a diagnosis, then try the other stuff like counseling.

For some reason all of you men want to assume there is nothing medically wrong with you if you have ED. Its quite the opposite really- you should assume its medical. ED is usually one of the first symptoms of some pretty scary diseases- and if you dont have it checked, you could be shaving years off of your life. Google the effects of low testosterone on a mans body. Google ED and Diabetes or heart disease. You are not super-human and you are not less of a man if you have a medical condition. Go to the doctor and take care of your health so your upcoming marriage will be long and prosperous.

Sleeping B,, I had blood work done a few months ago when I started seeing a different Dr. . One of the things I told him was that I had ED. He said my testosterone was "okay",, well because of what you have said in your replies, I'm gonna see if I can get a copy of those blood test results and see if it says anything else about my T levels. My point is,, I want to say Thank You for pointing about about the different types of T levels..

Mark

Don't worry, I'm not ruling out going to the Doc but the main thing is that your employer gets a copy of your file when you get a new job. I SAW mine on the desk of my new boss in 2000. Including the embarassing incident of getting my scrotum ripped open right on top!
Also, I went for jock itch once and two of the female medical staff were all giggles and very unprofessional. No wonder men don't want to go. I would NEVER show such behavior in front of a patient. I was a medic too.

Yes the doctors dont give a crap about low testosterone. They dont give a crap about ED either. The service people receive for the money we pay is ridiculous. They told my H he was too young. He actually fell in the "normal" range at the very lowest point. I had to call and basically yell at them that he has symptoms and is not a 100 year old man! I tell you what- I HATE the medical community (most of them) b/c they are all corrupt- just like the politician in this country. They dont want to listen to you- then they only want to treat your symptoms instead of the underlying cause. It is very frustrating- if I had not been insistant then my H would be on anti-deppressants, cialis ($21 a pill! they are charging $21 to have sex! Made me feel like a prostitute!) , pain meds, and who knows what else. The testosterone took care of all of his symptoms and it just keeps getting better.

Our sex life has done a 180. We have gone from having sex maybe once a week or less- and when we did it was short and sweet- but now we are having sex every other day or more! It is amazing1 My h says he isnt run down or in a fog all day anymore. I am so angry it wasnt found sooner. This almost ruined our lives- that is why I come on here and reply to people- b/c I cant stand the thought of someone elses marriage being ruined by a condition that is fixed with LOTION! Ridiculous. We have to take responsibility for our own health- do research and take it to the doctors. And I have found out- that if your doctor is not interested in helping you, or gives you the runaround- you should just point blank tell them that you will leave and go find another doctor if they are unwilling to help you. period. No more just trusting what the doc says b/c they are paid to push certain drugs. You have to take your health into your own hands and demand quality care. Its is hard- but WORTH IT!!!!!!!

Markat: So thank you for letting me know someone is thinking about what I said- it may not be the case with everyone, but the point is- do not settle for no answer. ANY ED has a cause- you just have to find the cause and fix it!

BTW- It isnt something to be embarrassed about- the docs should be embarrassed for not wanting to help you and the only thing you should be embarrassed about is ignoring it!

Anyone is welcome to PM me for advice- I have done extensive research and will help you if I can. :)

Update - How's this for irony? My woman hurt her back and can't have sex hardly at all for the last 6 weeks! LOL

So I can't say yet how effective the tonkat ali is...