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Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.

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Confused about hubbys ED?

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Hello, I am confused and do not know what to do,How do i talk to my hubby about his ED problem? It has been getting worse and worse he has no sexual wants anymore.He can not get an erection or keep one long enough for intercoruse if he does manage to get one. He refuses to talk about it, i know he has tried two medications Cialis and levitra,But i only know that because i found them. He had hidden them. If i try to start anything even the least bit sexual he gets up and moves away. How can i tell him i found his pills? am i horrible for getting mad sometimes? but i never let him know im mad, I feel horrible because i am longing to make love again and have needs that i so want fulfilled its been almost two years since we have made love.
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Confused Wife, I understand where both you and your husband are coming from. I have ED issues like your husband. The biggest problem is once they happen the first time it creates a cycle that each time it happens it makes it that much more likely that it will happen the next time. Understand that he doen't want to talk about it because he is ashamed. My wife and I have a great relationship and yet I find this the most difficult thing to talk about with her. He's a man - an erection in some ways defines him as a man. He didn't want to tell you about the meds because if he did and they didn't work then he would be even more ashamed. It does at least show that he has made an effort to try and treat it but probably the meds aren't the answer. Try not to get angry and be as supportive as you can. Also don't take it personal. Part of the reason he is ashamed is because he want's to please you but he can't. There's some good books out there on amazon that might help you to understand this condition. Best of luch to you.
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Confused i just found out i have ed Here is how i feel i'am scared' ashamed; i dont know what to do its an emotional nightmare be supportive and work together. wish you well
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Everyone is different but when I figured out I had ED I told my wife and said we need to try and fix this togather but she thinks that rubbing my back or rubbing my leg with hers is enought. I didn't use to need any stimpulation but now I do and she seems to not give a hoot. She has told me that the sex was always for me that she good care less. So work with him it will mean a lot. Tell him not to be ashamed or embarrased that togeeather you can fix it.
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If you dont know how to broach the subject of telling him you found his pills you could try leaving them on a dresser where they will be noticed when you wake or go to bed
when either of you notice them ask "when did we get these?" and maybe star a discussion on how you would like to try to support his ideas on how to improve your sex life together (he bought the pills right?)
best wishes
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you dont know how to broach the subject of telling him you found his pills you could try leaving them on a dresser where they will be noticed when you wake or go to bed
when either of you notice them ask "when did we get these?" and maybe star a discussion on how you would like to try to support his ideas on how to improve your sex life together (he bought the pills right?)
best wishes
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