Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group

Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.

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Blamed Erectile Dysfunction on me.

Carm416
Carm416
My ex-boyfriend blamed his ED on me when the relationship began to fail. As far as I remember two months into the relationship he experienced difficulty getting and maintaining an erection. I tried to be as supportive to him as possible because I did not want him to become overly sensitive to the issue. There are not medical reasons to explain for the ED. He was prescribed viagra, cialis, but never initiated sexual contact with me. He was able to masturbate and watch porno movies, but did not feel the need to give me sexual pleasure. What is going on? Why did he resort to blame me for his problems?
deleted_user
deleted_user
IMHO he has problems that are beyond your control and your ability to help him with. I hope he seeks professional help, but you shouldn't blame yourself or take his blaming of you personally.
deleted_user
deleted_user
he expects you to believe a lie, he should'nt do that! besides hurting you it must cause him more pain after defending himself in such a manner
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deleted_user
deleted_user
i am in the same situation right now. My H blames me constantly for his ED. He has had several heart surgeries and is borderline diabetic. He has tried both viagra and levitra but I hate what the side effects do to him. He expects me to be able to get him turned on enough to perform. But after years of this, the frustration has worn me out. It is a vicious cycle of a few good times (relatively speaking) of sex, and then not good sex. I feel like I spend more time trying to turn him on than anything. It has become almost a chore to me and I am beginning to resent it. I don't know how to help him anymore. He is in denial and won't seek any professional help beyond what he already has. It is taking it's toll on our marriage as well. His way of dealing with it is to be distant, angry and generally an unpleasant person. I am about at the end of my rope here! Thanks for letting me vent I needed that!
deleted_user
deleted_user
not your fault and dont blame yourself he needs to get some help
deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband blamed me and then found out he was diabetic! He's apologized but at times he'll tell me I don't help the matter! I do try but it's really hard when you get no pleasure out of it! it sucks when you kill yourself to get them a little erect only to have them shink inside you! It drives me insane!!!!!!!!

After sex he'll apologize and I flip and say kiss me and hold me for an hour! That's what I need, not you to get done and go to sleep! He is trying and has been to doctors but then skips appointments or stops taking his meds! He drives me crazy!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can see right through this fella . He is the one with the problem not you.don't take the blame. He is jsut having a problem accepting the ED - be as supportive as you can.
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