Hi, I was told by others that this would be a good forum for my questions and concerns. I hope so. :) I am not a widow (divorced for 11 years) but I date a widower. His wife passed about 1 1/2 years ago and a long illness. Our relationship is along the lines of companions and we do a lot together most of the time and sometimes go through periods of a week or so where we don't see each other a lot. I believe we share a lot and we have some plans for activities into the future, he even asked me about something for 2013. He has introduced me to his family and I am pretty close to his grown children. I do love him very much but I know that he is still grieving and I want to make sure I give him all the space that he needs. Sometimes, I am not sure I do that well. I get confused with "does he need physical space or is it emotional space" or both...:) For instance....a week or so ago we (meaning him, I , his children, their families, and my children) spent almost everyday of Spring break together. Once that was over he said he needed a day or so...which is fine. It has been a bit slow since then, which is also fine. I know all of this is normal .....I honestly just want him to find joy in the end and if it is with me great!!! If not, I want him to just be joyous and be able to move on. I just right now want to make sure I am there to support him through it. Any thoughts and advice are so appreciated. I have never been widowed and so as hard as I try......I can't imagine losing my beloved after 30 years. Thank you :)
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