Homelessness Support Group
Homelessness refers to the condition and societal category of people who lack fixed housing, specifically a fixed, regular, and adequate nighttime residence. The definition also includes a person who has a primary nighttime residence that is in transitional housing or a person who spends most nights in a supervised public or private facility.
for the last 3yrs my husband and i have had my mom dad and sister living with us... at first it was because we were going through some really bad stuff and i needed my family for more support! my mom worked one job that took her almost 2yrs before getting then we moved to another state and she was unable to keep it due to her decideing to move with us.. meaning my sister and dad came with her.. shes been the only one that has truely showed care in wanting to be around me and be around my kids... my dad is an alcoholic and has been every sence my mom and him were dateing.. hes also a smoker and thats also caused problems as both my boys have Asthma! i go to alanon to help me deal with him but its still a struggle to deal with him because though i have expressed to him and to my mom and sister his drinking isnt! allowed! AT ALL!!! with him living in my house no place near my house! he still goes behind my back and does soo.. my mom dad and my now 19yr old sister are still living with us none of them have jobs my husband is the only one paying the bills everything.. when i have been able to and when the time has been right i have worked..
my mom has always lived a very hard life taking care of my sister me and everyone else around her dealing with my dads crap as well!! big time leaving him getting back with him leaving him agian and getting back with him agian! they have been homeless sooo soo much so many times growing up poor sometimes without food all together with the lights and heat shut off to living in a one room trailer with the tolet under my bed! to living in my moms single bed truck with no room to fall asleep hungry having to go visit my grandma for food!
i just refuse to just kick them back out to the streets but i think i may have to! and it tears me up inside i just dont know what to do at all they are my parents shes my sister and there always going to be my family...
on the other hand i am also pregnant dealing with a very bad sickness the whole pregnancy very high risk hardly able to care for my kids right now so my mom has been careing for both my boys... while i have been sick and in bed trying to stay as healthy as i can for our unborn baby with my husband helping only when he is home..
here is where we are at we may be buying our first home soon and moving and just dont want to carry this burden with us to our new place
any truely honest advice even if you think it may be hard to hear or not i can handle and would like please even suggestions or words of encouragement anything.. thank you kindly
what would you do? how would you react? what would you say i mean i am just so sad and depressed about even thinking on it not knowing what to say :-(
my mom has always lived a very hard life taking care of my sister me and everyone else around her dealing with my dads crap as well!! big time leaving him getting back with him leaving him agian and getting back with him agian! they have been homeless sooo soo much so many times growing up poor sometimes without food all together with the lights and heat shut off to living in a one room trailer with the tolet under my bed! to living in my moms single bed truck with no room to fall asleep hungry having to go visit my grandma for food!
i just refuse to just kick them back out to the streets but i think i may have to! and it tears me up inside i just dont know what to do at all they are my parents shes my sister and there always going to be my family...
on the other hand i am also pregnant dealing with a very bad sickness the whole pregnancy very high risk hardly able to care for my kids right now so my mom has been careing for both my boys... while i have been sick and in bed trying to stay as healthy as i can for our unborn baby with my husband helping only when he is home..
here is where we are at we may be buying our first home soon and moving and just dont want to carry this burden with us to our new place
any truely honest advice even if you think it may be hard to hear or not i can handle and would like please even suggestions or words of encouragement anything.. thank you kindly
what would you do? how would you react? what would you say i mean i am just so sad and depressed about even thinking on it not knowing what to say :-(
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
All of the adults need to sit down and establish boundries. You and your husband and kids have every right to move to your new home without additional burden.
Your Dad's alcoholism complicates things consdierably. My Mother died last year ...she drank herself to death. cirrhosis of the liver. It's a very unfortunate and sad way to die.
If I were you I would refuse to allow him to live in your home still drinking. He will do it behind your back, and whenever he can. ...I do not envy this position you are in, but someone has to make a stand...It's not wrong, your health and your children's health is at stake.