I'm currently in a partnership with the love of my life I'm HIV_ and he is negative. As oyu can imagine it doe shave a few complications but on the whole we lead a normal life in all aspects.

I'm negative and I have met somebody who is positive. It's a complicated situation and we may never be a couple anyway, but I really like him a lot and would give him a shot if the circumstances ever warrant that happening. I wanted to know other people who have lived this situation and I wanted to ask so much like: What do you do sexually? How can I stay safe? How would I keep a HIV+ partner happy and feeling good, while at the same time not putting undue risk on myself. What's daily life like? What happens when there are little everyday accidents that cause one to bleed? I'd like to chat sometime if you have the time and wouldn't mind. Do you use MSN Messenger? -Neal

I too am in a serodiscordant relationship. I was in an awful car accident with my hubby of nine years and I bled all over him but since he himself was bleeding out, he did n'ot contract the disease. He's been exposed to hiv on the job too and hasn't contracted it. We've had our share of broken condoms and have remained safe but it is harder for a woman to give it to a man than it is for a man to give it to a woman or another man. We each maintain safer sex items in both of our night table drawers so as to give us each the power over initiation and not to give any one partner all the control. Have you googled this topic or tried looking at
http://www.thebody.com
they have lots of info
and if you live in the us there is a 24/7 number that you can call anonymously
1 800 342 AIDS they can talk to you about this for hours and every day till you get used to it. Alexandria

This is what I've googled
http://www.google.com/search?q=serodischordant+couples&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a

also check amazon for this topic, there are plenty of social workers that work with these couples and have written about it and published. It's not so much the serodischordancy that's the focus here, It really comes down to (IMHO) how to have safer sex and make it enjoyable. Not the serodischordancy.
Most people don't get tested together before starting a relationship, then one gets sick and they find out and either the other one has already become infected or not. People just don't get tested, they are afraid. So applying information on how to have safer sex, from communication to consumation would be a real great place to start.

I have been in a serodiscordant reationship for 8 years now. By doing some research I know what is safe and what isn't. It really isn't rocket science, it's very simple what is safe to do and what isn't. I have a very enjoyable sexual retionship. It is amazing how inventive you can be and still be safe.
Being anal sex is the most common transmission route for HIV in gay sex, I avoid it altogether even though with condoms it is generally considered safe. They can break or be defective so I don't even want to take that risk with my other half, but that is an individual decision that you can work out. Just do some reading and take it from there.