Do you mean to say that your family member is infected? First, there is no such thing as an AIDS test and AIDS does not kill, only opportuntistic diseases do. Secondly, the HIV is not testing for any virus in any one's blood or saliva. It is only testing for antibodies, which in medicine have always been a good thing. Nevertheless, since the actueal HIV virus has not been purified nor isolated, one does not know for sure what one is testing positive too.

You say he was sent home without any medicine. If he is extremely sick, then he definetly needs medicines for whatever diseases is attaching his body. For instance, if he has Thrush, then he needs anti-fungal medicine to get over this.

Anger is nomral in a lot of siutations in life, whether you are the victim or a family member. Try not to let it eat at you as this is non-productive. You need to concentrate on how to best help your brother even when you are on an emotional roller coaster yourself.

he was given a test that found the hiv/aids. He has full blown aids and has had it for years. I am getting better with the anger daily. I am not over it completely as he was very careless in other peoples lives. he is a teacher and a counselor. He felt sick for 16 years and never took any tests. He only took this one because he was at his last leg. he thought he was dieing. I am very happy you have taken the time to respond back. I thank you for that. have a great day.

Thanks, I understand now. I want to give you hope. I had full-blown AIDS due to having many diseases and problems. When one is sick and dying, I'm all for any medicine, including the retroantivirals, to help get the person well. However, that is not enough, meaning the person must clean up one's health habits, eliminate negative influneces and add positive ones.

You might want to have your brother look into the drug LDN, which has helped so many. Go to google and type in LDN, go to its homepage. I no longer take the anti-virals for lots of reasons. However, I do take LDN going on 17 months now and I haven't even had a cold.

I will do this tonight. I have to ask is there a reason why he is acting like it's not as bad as it is. he is very sick and may have gone back to the hospital last night. he is just talking like he is not himself. Are there any signs he may hurt himself? Thanks

I hate to speculate what is going on in someone head. Every person and situation is different but at least he is under medical care and he needs your support.

When I was diagnosed, I had so many problems and was extremely sick. I was relieved to get a diagnosis. I am a strong person so I took the news well. You see, I do not believe in incurable diseases because if one thinks that one is going to die, one will. I am a fighter due to vairous hurdles that I've had to face in life, including cancer.

I hope that your brother is stong too so he will have a fighting chance.

He was sent back home last night. They gave him a shot for the chest pain. he has not yet got any meds for the illness. I am not sure if he will be getting it soon. They are trying to get some from some agency for him. They feel since he waited so many years to get tested. he can wait a few more days to get the meds. I can really tell your strong
I think he will be better once he has started those meds. He may get them by Tuesday. Thanks again

I don't want to go inside anybody's head either, but I can relate.

My hub died of full-blown aids, while in the hospital thinking he was dealing with lymphoma and a staff infection caused by the port implant.

Before he passed, he told ONLY me that he tested HIV+ and not that he had full-blown aids. I believe that they told him he only had weeks to live. I believe that alone caused him to completely clam up. I was tested two days following his mention of HIV and am + too.

Oh My goodness I can't imagine your pain. I am hoping for the best for you. I am sitting here with my mouth wide open. I think I would have done something to myself over this. You guys here are full of strength. I don't know how to handle bad news. I do know I am glad I found this site. God bless you all.

Yes, most of us are strong but it's because, as with many things in life, the situation has made us strong, to be able to tackle whatever comes next in life.

One great benifit of this and other sites, it that you can talk with others who have been there and done it so to speak. We do not speak from theory but from experience and you will find honesty as we have no motive not to be otherwise.

There are two other sites that you might want to go to, hiv voices.com and living without HIV drugs.com. There too,you will find real people who will help you.

I do not want to get inside your brothers head as well. This is something that is hard to deal with no matter what. I believe that though we are infected by hiv our families are affected by hiv. I have had this illiness for almost 14 years. I am still healthy. This illiness is all about taking care of yourself and the ones that you love. Don't give up on your brother yet--he needs time to cope as you do--take heart in know that you are not alone. This illiness is not the end of the world. Alot of us still work fulltime and we also go to college. I received this virus from a man 14 years ago that never told me until I was pregnant with his chid and then told me to kill the child. He took me and 5 other women that had children with him.. When you find out at first you are angry--even if you brother isn't showing it on the outside- he is hurting on the inside--your both in my prayers-- forgiveness brings peace.