
High School Stress Support Group
This community is dedicated to many issues that can appear in high school, including relationships, academic issues, questions about college and future plans, pressure from friends or parents, or anything else you want to chat about. High school can be stressful and overwhelming. This is a safe place to say what's on your mind and find support.

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I have liked this girl for about 2 and half years. I have known her since grade school. We were in band together for 5 years and in the same class for about 3 years straight. So she does know me. I had such a hard time talking to her and I eventually told her by getting her flowers and telling her that I liked her. This caught her completely off guard. She said she just wanted to be friends. I asked her if I could call her (Backup a little bit) and that turned out to be a total disaster. I spent another year trying to get the courage to talk to her. I managed to clear things up almost exactly a year later and I had made great progress. A few months later when school started I had no problem talking to her as a friend and about normal things such as what was going on at school, how our summers were, etc. Then recently I heard her friends talking about setting her up with someone. This really offended me and I felt I had to defend my feelings. I snapped and I said if you set her up with someone, Ill kill you. The very next day, I was talking to her as usual and I asked her for her cell phone number. She gave it to me without hesitation. A week later I tried calling her. She didnt answer so I stopped trying after two tries. I tried again and again. I panicked and I ended up calling her at least 10-15 times. I know that wasnt right and I did it in a state of panic and at the time I couldnt think straight. The next day we got in a text message war. To make a long story short, she completely rejected me, telling me that she doesnt like me, she never will, and to leave her alone. Then the school got involved and was resolved without much conflict. I dont ever want that to happen again. I want to apologize. And now all of a sudden, out of no where she now has a boyfriend. This guy looks like a caveman, a hippie, and on drugs. I know this guy from a class. He is trash and his friends are trash. He only cares about what she looks like. She who once was a little flower in the corner is now melting all over this guy. She is not the same girl that I knew. She is not acting like herself. All of this has happened within three weeks of each other. It is all happening at once and seeing them together makes me want to puke. I still want to apologize and try to still be friends with her. If she refuses, what should I do? Do I get everything off my chest? Do I tell her my real opinion? Is there anything I can do to break up the relationship or do I have no choice but to wait? Im so confused. What should I do because she really means a lot to me?
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If you still have feelings for her, ask yourself (and be perfectly honest) if you think that the relationship would work out.
First, I pined over a girl for about 2 1/2 years before finding out that...she's not quite my type. You'd be surprised how much you overlook when your idolizing over someone (which is bad). Ended badly, haven't seen her since but I'm glad it turned out how it did (no, I'm nopt bitter :P )
The second, a friend of mine, she rejected my proposal for a relationship but we both keep in good contact, as we both know now that it simply wouldn't have worked out (once again, overlooking obvious things).
What you need to do is to just make sure that you spend time together and really REALLY get to know someone before commiting to a relationship. There's nothing worse than commiting than finding out that both of you are night and day.
If you do find someone, don't pull out the bouquet out of the blue. The shock will be a bit much. Just ask her to hang out sometime, grab some coffee or something. If it helps you, make a mental list of things to ask her about her life. Start off with common interests, try to get a good scope of her personality and if it goes well, maybe start with some deeper stuf; differing interests can sometimes be okay, but if your core values are out of whack, the relationship stands no chance.
I'm gonna pray for you so that you find what you're looking for in life. Remember, a building built without a firm foundation in God is doomed to collapse.
Good night, and good luck, buddy.