Hi everyone! Ok so my bf went to rehab on sunday for his 30th bday and has decided he is coming home on Thursday. I know he is not ready yet but that is what he wants. He has set up to see a therapist on his own and says he plans to do so. My question is what role do I play now? I am not sure how to act, what to talk about if anything at all, and how much do I push him into staying clean. I want him to know that I am ready to leave if this doesn't work out but I don't want to threaten him into staying clean. I know if he uses when he gets home he will tell me he did, so do I act like he can trust me so I will definitly know or do I put it on the line for him and risk having to sneak behind his back and spy on him. At this point I know he can't hide it because I know to much and he sucks at lying to me. I knew trying to stay and support him was not going to be easy but I also know if he can't quit now he never will no matter what I do. I need to take care of me first and after the hell we have gone through this past year I am strong enough to say that it will be time for me to move on. It is going to suck because I want him to be the man of my dreams, my soulmate, my everything and he is all of that except the part where he uses. I deserve better. So if anyone can help me out and fill me in on what to expect I would be greatly appreciative for any advice.
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