why is he leaving rehab...i never suceeded when i left early..withdrawals are tough could that be the reason..if he realy wants to get clean he'll stay

My advice would be for you to leave him, no matter how hard it may be. I found when battling my addiction that while I was using, relationships were toxic. I think that the addict (as in me in my case) needs to be better mentally,physically,b4 being in a relationship. They tell you once in recovery,you should not date for 1 year. I never understood this concept untill my 3rd go at rehab. Addicts tend to find another addiction to replace the one they are trying to quit. Usually that turns out to be the #1 addiction to turn to (relationship) because it preoccupies the mind while not having your drug of choice. I think they said shopping was 2nd in line. Also the majority of relationships before rehab treatment don't work out after treatment. I have not been in a relationship for 2 years now. I want to be well before taking that step.

I dont think anyone can give you advice as such honi or even begin to tell you wot he's gonna be like when he gets home, the most detail I can furnish you with is sadly the opposite to what you probably want to hear ie one thing you can be sure about is that you WILL know if he's uses with immediate effect, he doesn't seem to have been in detox for very long but provided he hasn't been able to dabble whilst there he will be totally outta his nut if he picks up again, all you need to worry about there is the ODing side of things as many people do make the mistake of thinking they can handle the same amount as before they went in which they often sadly find out the hard way not to be true, many dont live to tell the tale. Oh pleae forgive me honi to be sounding all full of doom and gloom but this the harsh reality of this drug and so often tempts users back especially after their first attempt, I went thro' 3 proper detoxes, when I say proper I mean they were completed, and still I worry daily it will pounce out and catch me by surprise, I am ever vigilant and NEVER let my guard down, the most I can suggest I think at this time or should I say stress, is the importance of aftercare whether that be NA meetings, day program, rehab whatever, I think failure is often inevitable without having these in place for when you leave a detox unit. I wish you both all the very best of luck, he may feel not to 'burden' (which is how he may see it) you with his feelings, especially if some consist of a desire to use, but these are all normal thoughts and feelings which cannot be denied of hidden anywhere, it is so good to talk and very important, one day at a time tho' that's the most either of you can hope for at present and each day that passes and he doesn't use is a HUGE hurdle overcome, it may seem like only a day to most but to an addict it can feel like a lifetime. Please take care of yourself during this difficult time, its surprising how much it can take outta a person and you need to be strong, for YOU xxx

I was in a relationship of eight years when my addiction turned it upside down. I went in inpatient rehab, stayed till I was released. We have been backed together ever since going on 11 years. So is it savable sure - we are better then we ever were. So it is up to you two. You are who, where & what you are. So good luck and peace to you both!