my boyfriend is currently in jail because of heroin. It has destroyed his life. He wants to be clean but I know that it's easier said then done. He needs help and by the sounds of it he's getting the help he needs in jail however jail is way different then being out in the real world with temptation and stressers.
Once my boyfriend is released what should he do? How can I help him stay clean? He is willing to do whatever it takes he has said that he doesn't care if I look at his phone or facebook. He also agreed to not having cash on him his paycheks are going to be automatically put into my bank account. He also won't be hanging out with any of his old friends. He will have a councler and he will be going to NA meetings I'll go with him as support if he wants. It all may sound controlling but I want to make sure he has no temptation and I ideally wanna be able to help him before he messes up.
I have faith in him that he can get on the right track but you cant blame me for being worried. He will be on probation so he cant use at all. He will end up back in jail not to mention he has been diagnosed with Hep C and it's not looking good for him as far as that goes so he really can't use drugs or drink since his liver is already failing.
Any tips on ways to help him stay clean? Advice as far as what I keep an eye on or not allow or control to help him stay clean and on the right track? (yes it sounds controlling but he agrees it needs to be done) How can I tell if hes using again? What are signs or habits a user has?
I know I can't control him and keep him off drugs. If hes going to use he will use I have no control over it and I am well aware of this. I do however want to do my best to help him.
Any advice is much appreciated.
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