Try going to a nar-anon meeting. U will hear how other people handle there loved ones that are addicted. I just started to go and it helps me feel better. Look them up on Internet. Meetings everywhere! Just try and see. Good luck!

Dear Megha, I am an addict. There is nothing you can do for him. We have no control over other people's behavior. All addicts have a disease and there has to be a desparate want for him to quit for himself. In our addiction we do the same stupid things over and over again expecting different results. That;s insanity. Donnar is right that you need to take care of yourself first. Being around others who validate your reality is empowering. I'm sorry for your grief.

i put my ex-fiance thru hell, we were together almost a year, he found out about my heroin addiction about 3 months in, i had been a heroin addict for 3 years straight. he stood by me, trying to help, and i kept using, because he stayed with me, relapse after relapse, he always stayed, he always tried to understand. he tried to help me so hard... i lied to him about sooooo much and he didnt deserve any of it. i put him thru so much pain. he is a great man. the love of my life.

he left me 3 weeks ago, after i escaped detox on only the 5th day, got a hotel room, and relapsed again and overdosed 2x's in 2 days... and im now 2 and a half weeks clean. he doesnt want anything to do with me, he's done. when he left i had nothing. my whole life fell apart. if he didnt leave me tho, i know id still be using, id have no reason not to really... he helped me by leaving. i know thats a hard truth, but i am determined to stay clean, for the first time in my life. i was content using till i died before. now i want to make him proud. i know he feels guilty, like he could have done something better, or helped me more and that kills me. the truth is he could have never helped me, no one could. ur man needs to find a reason to help himself. just my personal experience.