this is one my husband uses a lot.he uses it as punishment and it can go on for a week.If he says anything or i do its all snotty that i get.Basically everything is me in the first place to him.Or if he messed up then its my fault if i get angry.A lot of the time i don't know what to do.Its cruel and he uses a formula of incidents he calls them to determine how long.At that i get angry sometimes i cry i do walk away i l go sit in the car i get angry and tell him no.He blows me off.I cant take it and how do i handle it.I tried building a life of my own but in the end he wants wants this that everything then he cares then doesn't.Right now i have nothing and its making me feel physically ill.i cant sleep anymore,cant stomach food.migraines.anxiety level ids up depression.I know leave,.i don't know where to go right now.its so hard and i have went through this before on here.some of you will recognize this.i thought it was gonna get better seemed to be for like a week.I tried so hard to trust that and i know i cant change him.I cant let him think he can but he only way to not make it worse is to let him.To shut up.I know by now i shouldn't believe what he says when its good but i did.Maybe its just i wanted it to go and didn't want to feel this or the pain who wouldn't but now here i am again.I'm trying to stay strong in this and not give into it.By that i mean he will do it if i protest and tell him how i feel or he doesn't feel im totally there.Its like if i don't want this i have to push everything aside.SO im left with my head spinning.The reason why i am here in the first place is stupid.He asked me a question i answered it and he began his crap for 2 hours saying i expect this that.I kept explaining crying because it was good i thought he loved me.So i was devastated and scared that this would happen again.It did and mostly because after 2 hours i got angry.I said how i felt told him to stop i stood up to it.Now thats always a mistake to do.So pretty much i have to let him be stay away until he feels its enough then he doesn't even want to talk about it.I cant just go ok.So the more i try or say something or if it angers me something he says does then he adds more.Help.What do i do?I feel like a nothing.Like i don't matter and its getting to me like im worthless and stupid.I know im not but hats is how he is treating me.Anyone dealt with this?
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