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deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi everyone. I have just recently separated from my husband of 7 years. He was emotionally abusive and there at the end physically as well. Lately I have been getting a little lonley and would enjoy some physical contact from an adult. I met a guy that I have seen at my job comming once a week for about 1 1/2 years.(at a bank) and I took the chance and gave him my #. He called and needless to say the conversation ended up verrrry hot. I'm already attracted to his looks, now mabey curios about what's under his shirt. We have decided that he will come to my house and whatever happens, happens. I think i've bit off more than I can chew and i'm kind of scared now. Does this make me look like a whore or something. I've never set up a first date where the sex was just planned ahead. to me i'ts wierd, but that's exactly what I need right now (a good screw!). I don't want this guy to take advantage of me but if I want us to have sex would he really be? should I just slow down? this is after 1 conversation on the phone and a weekly hi hows it going or whatever. ahhhhhh
Tray34
Tray34
I dont think this makes you a whore.You are an adult and so is he.You know your needs more than anybody else.Its not like you just picked him up off the streets and brought him home.Be careful of course but I say go for it.Have fun!!!
Loved1
Loved1
Need to feel safe to express all your feelings with the person you are with, be true to YOU. If you don't feel comfortable sharing all this with him he probably isn't the one or you aren't ready (or both). Anyway I think the physical act cant be separated from the emotional/spiritual connection that is there in sex (this is my opinion) and a healthy person is aware of all these aspects.
Seashells1
Seashells1
Sounds like FWB. Nothing wrong with that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't see anything wrong with it! I have a FWB, and it is great! Don't feel guilty, but if you don't want to do it... don't! Just be safe!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Whats FWB please?

Look at it the other way around! You're taking advantage of him because he's got something you want!!

Its a win:win situation!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Are you following me, Andy? LOL

FWB=Friend With Benefits
deleted_user
deleted_user
No this doesn't make you a whore. And he's not taking advantage of you if you initinated and welcome it. Just be careful though please. Letting someone in your home alone with you that you don't know well is never a smart idea. I would meet him a few times first in a social situation out of the house first and get a feel for him before you feel him. Just because you've seen him at work regularly for a long time does not make him a safe person to be alone with.
koolman
koolman
Oohh, a booty call-! Both of you are consenting adults and, if both of you are in agreement about the "nature" of the relationship, go with it! After the sex, discuss whether you want to be exclusive with each other or want to see other people. As long as there's good open, honest communication (and condoms and lube for protection) nobody will get hurt.
deleted_user
deleted_user
As a divorced woman, I say GO FOR IT!! I spent so many years going without because I wanted to be a good girl. I didn't even feel comfortable with touching myself to give myself pleasure. All that I got out of it was lonliness and frustration. Now I'm like a bitch in heat. I need a good screw and would like it regular without any complications of a relationship. I'm talking to 2 guys right now and I'm going to try them both out (at different times lol)to see which one is better cause when I get it I want to get it GOOD! I was with a man that only cared about pleasing himself for 10 years and now I'm ready to find someone to make me feel GOOD! We are just human with human needs.
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