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vibrators...?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok. So I am currently in college and in a serious relationship with a guy I really like and appreciate. Unfortunately, I don't think I have ever orgasmed. Ever. Help? From reading previous discussions I think maybe I should get a vibrator and see if I can have one on my own. Any suggestions? I have never bought one before. I guess I am a vibrator virgin :) I am in college, so I guess it needs to be fairly inexpensive. Also, privacy can be an issue so I need to be able to hide it easily. I would appreciate any input!! Thanks.
deleted_user
deleted_user
you haven't if you don't no i was 25 when did trust me its something that you remember. theres nothing wrong with you or boy friend thats just something thats not easy to do till yo have one on your own.... if you have store that sells toys your starter one you could get for like 10 to 12 bucks they are small an only use aaa batters an when you can get self off not only will you know it you can then teach b/f have fun
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have had two lovers who used vibros while we made love and it can be good feeling if clitoral stimulation is being done by woman while man is making love to her and joint climaxes are beautiful.
cindy666
cindy666
Forget the vibe, get an electric toothbrush. Seriously! Better than any vibe I have used. I have a whole collection of toothbrushes now. Cheap and couldn't look more innocent...
Charity6262
Charity6262
sanfranciscogirl I am in the same boat as you except I don't have a bf. I have heard of some online stores that you can get them on but I don't know how much they are. I am going to start looking into that myself.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think vibrators are a good idea. I used one for a while when I didn't have a boyfriend or a husband. They come in different sizes and price ranges.
deleted_user
deleted_user
either the toothbrush idea or i would have to got for durex.com where they are 15 and come in a purple sock kinda thing (i bought one for my gf this is how i know)
deleted_user
deleted_user
You poor dear. I love love love my pink penguin vibe from Pure Romance. Its good for both types of orgasms...I'll try to find a link to it, it was really fairly cheap, under $30 I believe.

I think the real issue is you not getting to experience an orgasm with your BF! Vibes are nice, but you want your first one to be with the BF I think. Does he practice oral on you? While sex is nice, oral is absolutely the best way for a girl to experience an orgasm, in my opinion.
deleted_user
deleted_user
its sad to say, but for me orgamisims get better as you age, so at your age i was having little tiny sneezes, but now WOW! and toys do help alot. how can you tell a man how to may you happy if you dont know what you like or dont like. GO have fun buy some toys
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do you masturbate at all? If you find out yourself what gets you off, then you can let your boyfriend know what you need. I've never bought a vibrator, when I was a teenager I used all sorts of things from around the house, candles, carrots etc. DONT use vegetables from the fridge. It was not fun......
deleted_user
deleted_user
You might not even need a vibrator......you can just do it yourself. I do remember my first one and it was in the backseat of my boyfriends parents car while they were in there!! Luckily it went unnoticed....so it obviusly wasn't during sex. He was just down there rubbing with his fingers. Just try tog et yourself in the mood and touch yourself down there. Once it starts to feel good just keep going.....you'll get there!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Def get one...its hard for a guy to get a girl off. But, with the help of a good one you can. Get one with a clit stimulater. They make cheap ones. Start small and work up. Have him do it to you. He'll love this. Stimulating for both..good luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was 21 and married 6 months before I had my first orgasm. It happened during intercourse. We tried other ways and it never seemed to happen, then all of a sudden... Once we knew the right place and position, it was off to the races! Its been 29 years now, and I can orgasm to toys, fingers, tongue, and sex. Practice makes perfect...
vickycarter
vickycarter
i had my first one with my current partner. that happednd when i was bout 17.
oh my god definately get a vibro i have had multiples with mine. and they are easy to hide and not expensiv that expensive depends wich one you decide to buy.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Word of advice: go for something with a softer shell. Those hard plastic ones can hurt!
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