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Should your Lover Keep Contact With old Lovers

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deleted_user
What if you found out your present lover was in contact with an ex lover would it bother you?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Depends; if they were mates and open about it then why worry?
If its being done 'secret squirrel' style, then I'd kick ass.
Sneaky usually = bad.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks CK maybe just paranoid as BP I
bigguy3
bigguy3
I never had reason to let her contact with "old friends" bother me. However, that contact with an "old friend" let to her doing things she promised me she would NEVER do. Trust your gut ... if it doesn't "feel" right then there is probably something amiss.
deleted_user
deleted_user
TY BG is odd at moment
deleted_user
deleted_user
Chill out lovely! If he is being honest about his contact then don't worry, but let him know that you're feeling a bit confused by it; could you become a friend of his ex too to alleviate your suspicions?
deleted_user
deleted_user
trust till you're given reason(s) not too..
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes CK cept I am 4000 miles away and ex is 400
deleted_user
deleted_user
What Poet said.
deleted_user
deleted_user
TALK to him honey xx
deleted_user
deleted_user
LETS SEE MY HUSBANDS EX LIVES WITH US. MY BOYFRIENDS EX LIVES WITH MY BROTHER.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband has been emailing a chick he was once engaged to. She's in Florida. It bothers me a little, but he's open about it & I know I don't have anything to worry about. I discussed it w/him & let him know how I felt about it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
have to agree as long as it is out in the open and they are honest about it sure, but if they are found out to be hiding it, there is reason for concern.
Tray34
Tray34
If he is hiding it then something is not right,if he is open about it I would still be upset but thats just me.
Tray34
Tray34
If he is hiding it then something is not right,if he is open about it I would still be upset but thats just me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is going to sound horrible, but the important thing is knowing that the ex knows their place, i.e. that the partner has moved on and is now with you. It's not necessarily a question of "will he cheat?" but making sure you don't have some 'friendly' ex meddling in the new relationship.
This is just my own past experience, I'd like to think someone can be friends with an ex and everyone plays by the rules.
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