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sex dreams of others

deleted_user
deleted_user
going by our other posts on dreams
i would like to know too

i dream of having sex with other men, and when i say other men,its not my husband, could be an ex, someone on holiday ive only just met, someone from work, someone i know , etc etc anyone really (apart from family - thank goodness :-) )

what does that mean ? does that mean that i want to have sex with someone apart from my husband ? does it mean im bored with my husband ?
anyone have any ideas ???????
deleted_user
deleted_user
It means you have an imagination. Don't read more into it than is necessary.

Dreaming of screwing someone doesn't mean you really WANT to, its your subconscious exploring..imagination...
joybells
joybells
It just means you have a healthy imagination.I do the same thing.
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
Jungians would point out that the figures in the dream may be inner figures, e.g your anima, the masculine.
deleted_user
deleted_user
nothing unhealthy or unusual about it
deleted_user
deleted_user
just because we dream of other people doesn't mean anything, except maybe you need to get laid heehee
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with the previous posters....sometimes, things can be read into TOO much...just enjoy it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Nothing wrong with it..it could even help your sex with ur hubby. unless you act on it!
deleted_user
deleted_user
last night I had a dream about having sex with Carla from Scubs lol
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hahaha! I have sex dreams most of the time, thus, the orgasms in my sleep.

I have slept the whole night through the last couple of nights, without waking up until morning. I don't even know the last time that happened.
CarlaBentley
CarlaBentley
Years ago, when I was in therapy, I used to use Gestalt Dream Therapy!! I loved it and got a lot out of it!!!
Basically, Everyone and everything in your dream represents a part of YOU!!!! My therapist used to have me tell the dream over and over, but always from a different point of view. I'd take the role of another person in the dream and give their perspective. I'd be an animal, an automobile, anything!!
There's all types of dream analysis and various theories but I've never heard of one that would assert that your dream necessarily means that you're bored with your husband or that you want someone else.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i often have dreams of havin really intense sex with someone i feel like i know but i can never see his face. i actually woke up havin an orgasm once. sure wish that would happen again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hey patty, I've had ones like that alot of times too. It always seemed weird that it felt like someone I was totally comfortable with, but couldn't always see his face.
roseBud23
roseBud23
Sometimes it just so happens that you're thinking about that person... how funny they are... how they made a comment to you that you connected with.. etc. and it just so happens that you're also feeling frisky before you went to bed... 2 things just got combined i'd say
koolman
koolman
I day-dream and fantasize about many women all the time. As long as you don't ACT on it (if you value your current relationship, that is), I think it's OK.
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