
Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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I dont even know if this is the right place for this. But here goes.... As most of you know I was in an extremely abusive relationship. He systematically manged to deplete my self esteem and my confidence. Growing up I always knew I was pretty. I never had problems attracting guys. Now though, I just dont know anymore. I am so insecure and I know that is a turn off for guys. Also I am so worried about my judgement when it comes to men anymore that I am thinking of completely foregoing a relationship. I started dating my ex when I was 15 and married him when I was 19. Now we are seperated and divorce is pending. While with him I got up to 200 pounds due to depression. I am now a nice healthy weight and am going to the gym regularly. I have recently ( a couple months ago) met someone I am interested in, but I am so insecure with myself that I am afraid to let anyone too close. How do I get past the voice of my ex in my head telling me I am not good enough for anything but sex. I do not want a strictly physical relationship. I want what I see most of you all have which is loving honest relationships. How to I learn to trust again and most importantly how do I regain my self esteem?
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Some of us guys are great, but we're dealing with our own shit too, and maybe a sexual relationship is a bit too "close" for you right now...give yourself time AWAY FROM MEN...coming from a man, that's my advice.
All I can say for now is that I've got a lot of platonic male friends who I can talk to, hearing about relationships/dating from their side has been an eye-opener for me - and it was also my male friends who made me realise in the first place that I was worth rather more than my ex, so I'll always be grateful to them for that!
Hope that's some help, having friends like that around might give you a better idea of what to look for in a future romance.