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A friend of mine on this site messaged me today and said that his girlfriend found porn on his computer and is freaking out. She says that to her it is like cheating and is very upset about it. He admits that it's not just an occasional 'activity' that he does it often and he doesn't know if it's something he should have to give up or if she should be more understanding and open minded. He doesn't belong to this site so I'm asking for him. Can anyone offer some help to resolve this situation for him?
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I personally have NO issue with porn, as long as it's done in an open manner. Keeping it hidden makes it dirty.
'course dirty can be good too... ;)
i used to be completely against it myself, and i did consider it cheating too, but last night my husband and i watched it together....so you never know. ...but if she is that against it, he needs to give it up. porn isnt something that you can make yourself be comfortable with if youre not.
Again, not something I've had a problem with, as long as I know about it. I'm of the mindset that it doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you come home to eat!!!!
CLARIFY CLARIFY CLARIFY!!!
Or did it just never cross his mind that this was something that he should have made a point of bringing up?
There's more than one problem here.
Does he watch porn more than is healthy, in his own opinion? If yes, he should address that.
He shouldn't have to give up watching porn just because SHE thinks it's wrong and she shouldn't have to change her attitude and loosen up just because HE thinks she should. Neither party is right nor wrong, so the conflict shouldn't be geared towards determining that.
They need to work out a way that is satisfactory and fair for both of them and if they can't, and the issue is a big one for them, then they'd best split.
If they decide that one of them is totally going to capitulate and do what the other one wants, it may breed resentment. So, whoever 'loses' had better think hard about what it's going to feel like, as time goes on.
I don't see anything wrong with his watching porn, generally speaking and assuming that he isn't addicted to it.
Would she be upset if he masturbates? Or fantasizes about other women? More than likely both of those things are going on. I don't really see much difference in any of those things.