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my mom update; she recieved a blood trans fusion on monday.althogh it brought her blood counts up it did not do what the oncologist had hoped.the big concerns are she borderline on kidney failure,congestive heart failure and as of an hour ago she is showing signs of jaundice.they have orderd test to check the liver ,pancreous,and the gall bladder. she has been givin a max of 2 months to live without treatment.even with treatment it may not make a difference. so here is my problem she has been specific about her wishes.test no treatment.but should i allow them to put her through the test.i have tried to stay true to her wishes.she is not able to make decisions for her self.her oncoligist feel anew treatment has a 60/40 chance of pulling her out of this.treatment or make her comfortable.





multiple meyloma is a nasty and very devistating cancer.espacially when it starts raging.on minute your ok then it will totally desimate its victim. at this point i value your prayers,opinions and point of views.thanks for all the support.

forrest
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you said she told you her wishes... then do just that no one will blame you for doing as she wishes and if that means making her comfy instead of treatment by all means make her comfy... you know what she would want she told you..

we lost my dad in january we did as he asked. good luck
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Difficult one, only you know your mum well enough to be sure but from what you've said it sounds as though she knew what she was about when she told you her wishes.
I'd say a 60/40 chance is still quite a low chance - also has the oncologist said how much more time it would actually give her?
My uncle died of cancer last year, seeing what he went through with no real chance of survival, just treatments to extend his life by another few weeks, I'm not sure that's really doing someone a kindness. Keeping your mum comfortable is probably the best thing to do.
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I WOULD DO AS YOUR MOM WISHES. MY HUSBAND ISNT IN GOOD HEALTH AND THAT IS HIS WISHES NO DNR NO MACHINES. AND MY MOM IS THE SAME WAY. TREATMENT MAY ONLY PROLONG HER PAIN, BUT THIS IS JUST MY OPINION.
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My heart goes out to you with this on your shoulders, I would MYSELF abide by my mothers wishes. i am sure she knew at the time she had this thought and you entered her mind , she chose you because she knew you would do her right. Keep your head up and i again , wish you and your family all the best.
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FORREST,
IMHO, I WOULD HAVE TO AGRRE WITH MY FELLOW FRIENDS HERE AND DO WHAT YOUR MOM WISHES. IT'S THE LAST THING YOU CAN DO FOR HER OTHER THAN BE THERE WITH THERE WHEN SHE GOES. YOU HAVE BEEN THERE BY HER SIDE THRU IT ALL AND THAT'S WHAT I'D DO, AND ALTHOUGH IT'S A TOUGH PERSONAL CHOICE TO MAKE BECAUSE WE WANT THEM HERE WITH US EVEN JUST A BIT LONGER...RESPECT HER WISHES. YOUR MOM TRUSTED YOU ON THAT. YOU ARE A STRONG BRAVE MAN FORREST AS I'VE BECOME YOUR FRIEND RECENTLY AND I KNOW YOU CAN PULL THRU WITH THE LORD'S HELP. MUCH LOVE AND MANY PRAYERS...
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For a moment, I thought she had pancreatic cancer. The way it's going, it seems almost identical. I just spent the last year caring for my grandmother. I think she had pancreatic cancer when I moved in with her, but we didn't find it until June and she passed away in July.

It sucks. It totally fucking sucks. There are a couple of things I can tell you that won't make you feel better now, but might later. Hopefully, her suffering will be short. Hopefully, you'll be able to do what she wants, what she needs you to do for her. Hopefully, you'll realize you did everything you could and the guilt will ease.

Tell her you love her. Enjoy your time with her. Laugh, smile, share funny stories and dirty jokes. Dying sucks, but dying with people bawling sucks worse :)

Trust me on that, though it was the hardest thing I've ever done, I saved the tears for after she was gone. While she was here, I loved her and laughed with her and had a good time. She went quick and she suffered little.
joybells
joybells
I am so sorry.Nobody will blame you for doing what she wishes.Good Luck.
LisaACOA
LisaACOA
Hi, my name is Lisa. I am a Hospice Volunteer. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I think you should abide by your Mothers' wishes. I would strongly recommend that you get Hospice involved to help her and the family. Hospice is a great organization. You can have her in your home and keep her comfortable. If I can be of any support to you please let me know. I will give you my number if you want it. I have had alot of loss in my life. I lost my Father and my Husband. As much as I miss them, it gives me comfort and peace to know that they aren't suffering any longer. Remember even when your Mom passes she will always be with you. You will see her again.

GOD BLESS YOUR MOTHER, YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Love and Support,

Lisa xx
abusehurts
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I am sorry you are dealing wth this but my mom has also told me the same.As hard as it is,I know I am the one daughter she has instructed and the one to make the decisions because she knows I will do what she wishes even though it will be the most difficult thing I will ever have to do.

Do what she wishes because you love her.Do what she wishes because she loves you.Do what she wishes because you know it's what she wants.

I can't begin to imagine how you feel at this moment when you have to do this.I do know I will be there.I pray for you,your mom,and your family at this time and will continue to for monthes to come.For as long as you need.

With love and prayers Jane.
Tray34
Tray34
Frist off I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this.If your mom has told you her wishes I feel that its only right to do what she asks.She knows whats best for her and she is probably doing what she thinks is best for you and everyone else.May you find the strength you need to make the right decision.You have my support and prayers..
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