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Ok I need some advice here. I have been seperated from my husnbund for 6 months and our divorce will be final next Monday. He cheated on me because he decided I was overweight and he wanted someone more attractive. He said lots of cruel things to me regarding my weight, so my self esteem was pretty low.
About 2 months ago I started dating a really great guy. After about a month we started having sex. He's 35. About 2 weeks after we started doing this we had a little problem. We were getting hot and heavy an then he couldn't.....get it up. I immediately think it's because of me. My husband didn't find me attractive so maybe he decided I was gross too. He swore up and down that it wasn't me. But when it happened everything that husband said to me came back. It has been over two weeks since this happened and we haven't had sex since.
So what's the deal?? Is it me????? Or is he embarrassed that it happened??? I just don't know what to think. I have asked him and he swears it has nothing to do with me. But ever since that happened I don't feel like we're dating. I just feel like we're friends who hang out.
So guys....help me!!! What would you be thinking???????
Thanks!!
About 2 months ago I started dating a really great guy. After about a month we started having sex. He's 35. About 2 weeks after we started doing this we had a little problem. We were getting hot and heavy an then he couldn't.....get it up. I immediately think it's because of me. My husband didn't find me attractive so maybe he decided I was gross too. He swore up and down that it wasn't me. But when it happened everything that husband said to me came back. It has been over two weeks since this happened and we haven't had sex since.
So what's the deal?? Is it me????? Or is he embarrassed that it happened??? I just don't know what to think. I have asked him and he swears it has nothing to do with me. But ever since that happened I don't feel like we're dating. I just feel like we're friends who hang out.
So guys....help me!!! What would you be thinking???????
Thanks!!
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You are BEAUTIFUL...I've read some of your previous postings, you're well spoken and intelligent.
So, on to the limpness.. Have you talked about it recently..? Has it ever happened to him before..? He could be nervous or he could have Erectile Dysfunction (ED). It's a fairly common disorder for some men.. Be very understanding with this, as he could be very self conscious... Be supportive and understanding if you really like him..
I think you need to keep at it and give it more time... If it persists, go with him to see a doctor.
I doubt it is you hun, he probably is embarassed and worried it will happen again. This type of thing can happen because of stress, among other things. Communicate with him about it. I am sure he will help calm your fears.