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In need of advice desperately

deleted_user
deleted_user
I've been sexually active with my bf for about 1/2 year now. (my first sexually active relationship) and its great and all. But I havent been able to orgasm during sex. havent been able to have the magic yet. what can I do? I dont think i have a g-spot, if thats at all possible.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sure you have one, sometimes they can be hard to find... mine was.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Masturbate. Learn what you like, how it works and what exactly gets you going. Then you can teach him.

Cant help you on the g-spot... havent found mine.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Are you getting enough clitoral stimulation? Try positions that stimulate the clitoris like being on top.
Tray34
Tray34
Experiment with different positions to see what works best for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
how old are you, it gets better with age. next thing with us ladys our womb is not always tilted in the same deriction. some are tilted back,forward,to the right.to the left ect... although I enjoy sex in every pesion they all get me hot. I have one faveriot that will get me there every time. so We do lots of stuff but when I am realy hot and ready I switch up and go for the one that never fails me. try them all tell you find yours and self-serve is a good way to find it helps alot. men love to get you off so just tell him what you want once you figure it out. hope this is helpfull
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deleted_user
Also telling them I like this better or that dosent work for me this works better. is ok
deleted_user
deleted_user
You need to rub your clit or get him to do it. Girl, if he stays on that spot... you WILL cum... guaranteed!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't stress about having an orgasam. Lots of women have trouble at your age. Take your time and just enjoy all the sensations. Masterbation can help but don't use vibrators and things until you can do it by yourself or you can get dependant on them.
vickycarter
vickycarter
i had my 1st one when we had been together 4 about a six months and i only get one when im on top
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deleted_user
Practice practice practice! It will CUM in due time!
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is where the Indian addage of Kama Sutra is so helpful, you must experiment, it may not be just one thing, but there will usually be one thing that is most sensual for you.
koolman
koolman
And Tantra (is Tantra included in the Kama Sutra, sheena, or is the Tantric art an Asian thing?):

"It was me...the ficus...the whole thing was so erotic...one more stimulation and I would've had full release."

"Finch...stay the fuck away from that ficus. That's a jizz-free ficus."

-American Pie 2

Seriously, tho, kimmy, can you get yourself off? If not, practice makes perfect! Dildo, cucumber, your fingers flicking back and forth across your clit...you'll get there...If so, maybe it's an "emotionally letting go with your partner" thing. Learn to trust completely and let 'er rip.
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