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Hello. I am a 25 yr old man who has never had a g/f let alone dating any woman. When I was a teen, I wasn't really ready to date a girl. At the time, I was going through severe depression and felt I was not ready to love a woman beyond the realm of physical beauty and sexual attractiveness.
Now as I have graduated college, started working in society, and gained many insights on life I didn't know before, I truly miss having a g/f. I know I want a g/f because in part I long for finally losing my virginity and experiencing sex. But I also miss cuddling, hugging, having someone very close to talk to, have a dialogue in popular topics and who share a lot of common interests.
But it seems that I am very undesirable type for women. I am ugly (I have few scars around face area), still battling severe depression, shy, indoor type and don't have financial security among others. But I am tired of being lonely every weeknights after coming home from work and every weekend. I really miss that presence of a woman that I can truly connect both physically, emotionally, and mentally.
Can anyone give advice? How do I go about meeting such women?
Thanks in advance for any insights.
Now as I have graduated college, started working in society, and gained many insights on life I didn't know before, I truly miss having a g/f. I know I want a g/f because in part I long for finally losing my virginity and experiencing sex. But I also miss cuddling, hugging, having someone very close to talk to, have a dialogue in popular topics and who share a lot of common interests.
But it seems that I am very undesirable type for women. I am ugly (I have few scars around face area), still battling severe depression, shy, indoor type and don't have financial security among others. But I am tired of being lonely every weeknights after coming home from work and every weekend. I really miss that presence of a woman that I can truly connect both physically, emotionally, and mentally.
Can anyone give advice? How do I go about meeting such women?
Thanks in advance for any insights.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
try not to focus on anything negative, and look at things from a different point of view...see yourself the way the people that love you see you, and try to apply that to your way of thinking.
a little bit of confidence can go a long way...
what are your interests? there are ways to find people that you have things in common with just by doing the things you love to do....but even the every day things can put you in a position to meet people, for example grocery shopping....EVERYBODY has to eat =) and never be afraid to put yourself out there, because there are shy girls out there too that may not approach you first. I mean, whats the worst thing that can happen, really? you go home alone...but you are doing that now....see what I mean?
you are young....LIVE.
(something I wish I'd have done before now)
take care
They wouldn't put me off someone!!
Neither would the financial security aspect. I never cared too much what a guy looked like or how much money he had, as long as I liked him!!
What are your interests and/or hobbies!!!? Whatever they are, find some clubs/groups in your area and join up!!!
The focus will be on the interest, rather than directly on you and you can be a bit more relaxed. Any women whom you meet, will likely share that interest -- a good starting point!!!
It might be helpful for your depression, too!!!!
By the way, do you get treatment for your depression? I hope so!!! Depression is .... well, depressing!!
Good luck!!!
And take care!!! I hope things look up for you, soon!!!!
Find something you love to do... Someone that is interested in the same things will come along. Almost everyone I know is financially insecure. I am too. Staying in the moment is key. Always say what you really mean. I fell in love with music. It has been the best relationship I have ever had. Females like to dance. They know if you are talented. You do too. I dunno man. I'm not to big into the relationship thing right now... I just like enjoying their company really.
Self-esteem comes from committing esteemable acts
When you face your fears over and over again you build courage and self confidence. It is not easy. If you do the work you get the benefits. Then you also have the expirience to share with others when they are in need. I am who I am because of what I have done. Not because of what I say, think, or feel... I'd suggest getting into MMA. It's a blast.