Healthy Sex Support Group
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Okay, I have been in a relationship for 2yrs now and at first he wanted to be with me all of the time. But now it is almost like a chore. I have a very high drive but once maybe twice a month is NOT enough. He works 2 jobs and has a lot of stress. What can I do to "inspire" his interest?
deleted_user
if you find out let me know b/c i have the same problem but from her
deleted_user
I don't understand. What guy wouldn't want someone to be willing WHENEVER they are? I am not asking for it 12 times a day but once every other day would be GREAT!
deleted_user
well i am the same way and it is the same for me, i mean it does not even have to be about me it could be all about her pleasure
deleted_user
Well, I think he is just under a lot of stress and I can't seem to get him to relax at all. Even if he has a day off, he just sits around thinking about everything at work! I love him and wish things could be different. So many fights happen b/c of this it is crazy!
deleted_user
oh i know what you are talking about, and i understand where you are coming from on that one beleive me
Tray34
You two are not alone.Theres a few of us here in the same boat,me included..
deleted_user
So do you have any ideas on how to help things out?
deleted_user
yeah i know it is just it seems like it is a chore for her and it is like hurry up and get it over with. just makes me mad sometimes
deleted_user
Yeah! Sometimes, I just try to do something else like clean the house to forget that it's been weeks and weeks!
deleted_user
not sure i try alot of things myself, oils, massages,bathing her, touching her, kissing and just about everything else
Tray34
We dont go weeks without it.my main problem is I am the one always initiating it..Its like I am the only one interested and he does it to shut me up.Thats how I feel anyway.Lately I have been trying to act like it doesnt bother me.I dont talk about it or fight about it and he has been more interested.I think he was so used to me being the agressor he would wait for me and now that I backed off a little he is chasing me.How long will that last?I dont know..
deleted_user
yeah but i try that and it just does not work, i mean she only likes it when and if she wants it and when she does of course i am going to want too.
Tray34
Sometimes it works,sometimes it doesnt.It has backfired on me before too..And I always say this time I am sticking to it.I wont give in but I do.He can come up with some off the wall reasons why he cant do it.Lately though it has been a lot better,not sure what changed.
deleted_user
Get him sacked from 1 job!!
jimmysquirrel
well, one of the main reasons many men lose their sex drive is that they just have too much on their plate... and by the time that sex is an option, they are just plum tuckered out
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