
Healthy Sex Support Group
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GULPS!!!! I need some help. I used to have sex with my husband about 20 times a week. It was brilliant, however, after 22 years of marriage he wanted threesomes and foresomes. This broke my heart, I stopped loving him. I was divorcing him, I left him. He begged me to come back, I did. I have not had sex with him since. It's been 8 years now. I have just come out of a bad depression and now want sex again. I just can't bear to have him touch me he makes me feel sick now.
I just don't know what to do.
I am getting to the point where I think the only option is an affair.
Any suggestions please? I am 'desperate'
It has taken all my courage to write this, can any one advise me without laughing at me please?
I just don't know what to do.
I am getting to the point where I think the only option is an affair.
Any suggestions please? I am 'desperate'
It has taken all my courage to write this, can any one advise me without laughing at me please?
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Have you seen a counsellor regarding this? You could benefit from both individual and couples counselling.
If you're interested in sex, just not with your partner, it's not likely a medical condition, but a psychological block.
IMHO - Don't do the affair. It will NOT help the situation.
I applaud your courage for asking it means you are open to help.
I must state again though, in my opinion, that an affair is not the answer, your running the risk of emotional involvement.
I guess I'd like to ask that other than the sexual aspect (which is VERY important..) how secure are you in your marriage? Are you happy together? Can you live like this for the remainder of your life?
It sounds to me as if you're in a similar position right now. You need to decide whether you're going to trust him again, with counselling if that's what it takes, or whether you're just staying put because it's "the right thing to do", in which case you're probably going to end up feeling even more betrayed some day about the wasted time.