Ok then....nevermind!

Hey, sorry no one has responded! The Healthy Sex Board tends to be pretty slow!

Are there any medical reasons why your sex drive is lacking?

I am trying to get more info before I delve into the advise! lol

-Watch people do it...if possible live!!! If not, porno will do...see if that makes you horny

-Strip in front of a mirror, dance, etc and learn to pleasure yourself.

-Go see a sex therapist

-Communicate with your husband.

I don't think there are any medical reasons...I haven't had my hormones tested in several years so I guess that could be a factor.

You have to make yourself happy first. Stress is not sexy!!
From your profile; I'd say you may want to consider some counselling and definately have some serious pampering.
Jolly off to a spa with some friends for the weekend, have a good retail therapy session, and come home feeling less stressed and more sexy.
Talk to him and together focus more on 'little things'; bunches of flowers, little random love notes, compliments. Most girls need to be helped to feel good!

Pamper yourself first! If you feel good, you are more apt to make your partner feel good!

Thanks for the responses! Kate...I am in therapy working on the stress issues and several others! I agree with you in that I need to be more agressive in taking care of myself...I've let that slide. JustCurious, If I could do those things without feeling a complete idiot I don't think I would be having these issues(the dancing naked thing)! I've not considered a sex therapist though...could be a good idea too. I REALLY appreciate you guys!

Are all the kids in the pics yours?
Although you still look good, I can't blame you if you are just so stressed.

Stress really can affect a person's desire to do anything, much more sex. I feel for you. I have been there...just try to not think that sex is another chore that you have to do for your husband to make him happy.

You need to be mentally, emotionally and physically in fair shape to truly enjoy sex.

Curious...one of the girls and the twin boys are mine. The other two girls are my beautiful step daughters. I have to say, the girls are trying to give me gray hair...the things they do! I am stressed and working a plan to help reduce all that. I just wish there were more I could do for the hubby to make him feel desirable. I think if I didn't have the stress of worrying that he was unhappy it would help A LOT!

Are you on any meds? I was on Effexor for years and I had no sex drive at all! That could be a factor. I think the fact that you're here is a big step.

Thanks Joslyn...I take Wellbutrin, the lowest dose. I'm not sure that's it though...I've always been like this. I've just had enough of it and want to feel NORMAL that way! I think you're right, this site has opened my eyes a LOT. Just seeing how open everyone is make me see things differently.

I agree with Curvy. Take things one step at a time. Do the little things (love notes in his work lunch, hint to him about flowers, massage each other randomly, that kinda stuff. My wife LOVES that stuff, and in the end it leads to alot more sex. We had not had sex but once a week for about the past month to month and half (which I was ok with because I've been dealing with medical issues). All of a sudden, she started loving my randomness last week. We were in the shower thanksgiving morning..BAM! 35 minutes of oral (each of us giving and receiving). One day she ripped my clothes off in the kitchen when I came home on my lunch break from work...I LOVE those random times! :)