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I'm 17 and have learned at a young age..

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I've learned that there's alot of power with sex and I've used that power to get by. It seems like I've used it to get attention or love or to get the things I need. I think I have a messed up view of what sex is supposed to be like normally. I've gotten alot of attention from guys in my life because of my looks. It's probably only because of my looks and sexuality. I feel like they wont like me or have anything to do with me if I don't give them what they want. What's it like to be loved or cared about for me and not my body always. I've lived with and hooked up with a few individual that were really into sex and pornography and they got me into it and I've done alot of things and experienced alot, good and bad. It's hard for me to know what's normal anymore or right to do or how to be with guys. I tend to be very flirtatious to get what I want or need to live. As I've been on my own alot these past few years. I'm new to this site so wanted to learn more and talk to new people. thanks
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your still young, life gets easier, harder, you get wiser, but still maek mistakes. The fact that you notice these things about you is a very good thing. Good luck.
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Maybe you should try the "teen sexuality" group
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You should google sex addiction. Sexual addiction for women means using power (sex) to get love/affection and that's what you said you are doing. Sexual addiction for men is using love to get sex...check it out.
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I had low self esteem then found I was great at sex well enowed so women liked me. Still not sure whether it was me or orgasm they loved but makes on feel worthwhile.
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**OR** we could just not post because this individual is 17!!!!
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I'm with alittleconfused...

Something about this post smells fishy...
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although i agree that giving a 17 yr advice on sex is a bad way to go. i was more trying to approach it as a problem n her way of thinking rather than anything sexual. am i off?
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Yikes..*runs away quickly*
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I have a 14 year old daughter who is discovering her femininity and herself as a person. She is very special and though I am angry at her for the moment, I tell you that if a guy is ONLY looking at your looks, he is missing out. You sound like a well centered sweet young lady...don't compromise your values...you got 'em from Mom And Dad. Ya see, therre is a trick I have learned...my daughter gets stubborness about who she is from me, Billy from mom. The point is they have two parents who care deeply...so go to what Mom and Dad taught you.THey are probably right!
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Yes, this girl is 17, but she's obviously been having very adult like sexual experiences for quite a while now. That is not good at all and I by no means condone teen sex but this girl is reaching out. She will not get the help she needs on the teen-sex site. We can't turn our backs on teen agers asking for help. The teens today aren't like we were as teens. It's a whole new world and a scary one at that. I hope others will give her loving advice and not shun her. I plan on mesaging her privately myself.
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Thanks for the responses. I'm new and just wanted to get out there and meet new people to talk to. Wasn't sure what to say. I thought about teen site first and read some stuff there but I feel like I'm grown up faster than most and wanted to talk more to adults as I haven't really had real parents to talk to. I am turning 18 in around 6 weeks too. Thanks for talkin to me. Benny
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