We've been together 13+ years. Last year I filed for divorce and seperated. I had a "fling" and gained my sexual confidence back. I realized that I "still had it" and was capable of the amazing sex I had a decade before... then I got back with my husband.
Now, my husband has gained an enormous amount of weight (390lbs at 5'9") so our first challenge is purely physical. I can either be on my back, or rare occasions doggy style when we find the right height in furniture... my passion is being on top. We do try to do foreplay and stuff to satisfy me. Our second challenge is one we do have sex its over within the same minute we started. So i try to enjoy myself during the foreplay. Our third challenge is he only wants it once every few weeks. Other than that he's too tired, or his stomach hurts, or he just doesn't feel like it. (This is part of why my fling helped my confidence so much. I used to think there was something wrong and my husband just didn't want me, or i was broken.. my fling changed all that). Id prefer it at least weekly...we are now at once a month.
The last challenge is i have no attraction to his body at all getting so big. Especially since i can't do all the fun positions and the few things i enjoy the most. I work around it, but i want to gag if I'm to please him in certain ways.
I'm a very sexual person and since that fling is getting harder and harder to be satisfied. I want to enjoy my partner regularly, and i can't. I don't want to cheat, and i get bored by myself all the time.
He is going to try to lose weight again (last time he lost 80lbs) which helps a little.. but not much. The other non-size issues are still there, although he may increase timing to every 2-3 weeks...
Is it possible to stay in a relationship without satisfaction?
So my partner and I can have sex for a long time and he dosent cum we use Condoms every time but We do not use condoms for oral and he cums in a reasonable amount of time with oral. I know it has nothing to do with his attraction for me because I can make him erect very easily. And when we are having sex he stays hard the whole time. But I want him to cum because when he dosent I feel like he...
I've been married going on 10yrs. After two kids my sex drive has changed and i dont have the desire like I used to. This has caused issues in our marriage my husband feels like hes not it for me cuz I never iniate or have an interest in sex. With this and lack of communication he has stepped out on me smh. We're going through this now. I just want to hear peoples ideas on how to get my drive...