
Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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Hi There,
So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs and have lived together for 2 of those yrs. Sex used to be this great thing in our relationship but lately... yea, not so much. I'm assuming a lot of it has to do with we used to sneak in that quicky before everyone got home before we lived alone and it was a feeling of adventure. But even now, I put on the costumes and role play, I'm the one who brings in the toys, and I'm the one who starts it all. He just doesn't initiate sex anymore and it drives me nuts! I've asked him if it's something I'm doing wrong or if I just need to drop a few pounds to be attractive and he says everything is just fine and he doesn't know why he's like this. Even once we do have sex, it's just not the same. I think I've done just about everything to bring spice back short of buying a pole for our room, but trust me I've looked into getting one. LOL! But I'm TIRED so TIRED of being the one to bring him into the bedroom or put on the show. It's his turn to sweep me up and take me into the bedroom. At least that's what I would like.
Any suggestions? Thanks so much for listening!!
So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs and have lived together for 2 of those yrs. Sex used to be this great thing in our relationship but lately... yea, not so much. I'm assuming a lot of it has to do with we used to sneak in that quicky before everyone got home before we lived alone and it was a feeling of adventure. But even now, I put on the costumes and role play, I'm the one who brings in the toys, and I'm the one who starts it all. He just doesn't initiate sex anymore and it drives me nuts! I've asked him if it's something I'm doing wrong or if I just need to drop a few pounds to be attractive and he says everything is just fine and he doesn't know why he's like this. Even once we do have sex, it's just not the same. I think I've done just about everything to bring spice back short of buying a pole for our room, but trust me I've looked into getting one. LOL! But I'm TIRED so TIRED of being the one to bring him into the bedroom or put on the show. It's his turn to sweep me up and take me into the bedroom. At least that's what I would like.
Any suggestions? Thanks so much for listening!!
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