I'm reading this book and it all makes great sense for someone looking for a good relationship...but, it really hasn't addressed the natural need for sex. I'm happy to wait for the right guy to have a relationship with but I also realize that is most likely going to entail abstinence for a very long time. Is it wrong for me to want to have sex outside of a relationship? My therapist thinks this is wrong. The last guy I slept with, I really had no intentions of actually dating and I'm pretty sure he feels the same way (although he denies it). The guy before that seemed to understand the expectations that it didn't mean we would be in a committed relationship beforehand but then became obsessive afterwards. I'm very safe, upfront, and obviously the sex is consensual. If I were a guy, this would all be very average, I'm sure, but I'm a woman. I would prefer to be in a monogomous relationship and faithfullness is not a problem for me, but before I find that special guy, I just want to have physical intimacy sometimes. The book doesn't address this.
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